Just to fill you in.
H left in May. EA with OW at work. I found out 5 weeks ago he was having an EA. Up til then I couldn't figure out why he wouldn't work on us.

D-day was 2&1/2 weeks ago. H has been telling me since 2 weeks after he left he doesn't think he can love me again.

OW has new BF as of 2 weeks ago. Since then H is on Match.com and others searching.

I had 2 sessions with Steve H. 1 right after D-day the other 1 a weeks ago. Steve says H is not happy with life. (too young for mid-life crisis) Steve H said I need to get H to re-engauge in the marriage. He said to have contact with H no more than 2xs a week. Let him know I believe we can fix our M.

I am in the 3rd week now, but I feel like I been doing this for months. H says "i am not ready to talk i have nothing to say thathas not already been said".
Steve H said I need to do another 1-3 weeks. Then call him again.

My friends say I'm wasting my time. H is not comming back.

Is there a way I can get him to re-engauge ???

Has anyone else gone through this??

Encourgement is needed to be able to go on.

I know this post sounds dry I just don't have the strength right now to add the details.

Oh, you are still so new in this. I promise you things will get better. You have excellent counseling with Steve.

Don't listen to your friends. Unless they have been through this, they just don't understand.

If the OW is out of the picture, that is a good sign for your marriage. Hang in there and keep doing what you have been doing. Your husband is very likely going through withdrawal. That is good. Have patience.

Thanks Believer,
I needed to hear that. You could be right that he is in withdrawal. I know God wants me to remain firm and stay with the plan. God has encourged me again through your post.

Steve has no answers on how to influnce my H to re-regauge in our M and I don't know either. I pray for God's guidenance for me. If someone has a suggestions???