ok found out about A on 8/18/05. I was devesatated and W would not stop contact with OM so I went to plan B. I think I went to plan B too soon so last night was our 5 year olds B-day and we celebrated it together. I think I should continue with Plan A so that she sees that change I have made and told her that because I was so hurt I jumper the gun. We have to sell our house because we are barely making it and it requires 2 incomes. She has asked for a transfer to the city where this OM lives. She keeps saying that she was never into the marriage from the beginning but never had the heart to tell me. And always questioned if I was the one for her. (by the way we have been married 17 years) She says that she is to head strong and will just get in my way of growth. Last night she asked if I was ok with OM moving her stuff out of the house. I felt really disrespected and angry. I told her to never bring this man in to our home. Is this a good time to start Plan B or should I wait until the house is sold and me and the 4 kids get our own rental?

Should I seek legal advice now? .

I feel like I want to continue to show her how much I adore her and love her but am afraid she will lie to me and try to take everthing she can from the house.

Any advice is welcom

Orchid where are you?

First things first. EXPOSE THIS AFFAIR FROM THE MOUNTAIN TOPS! You have no time to waste. Expose to her employer as well as his! Expose to everyone! Do not let her leave unscathed. Your first priority is to crush fantsy land! Yes it will hurt her and you at first. But you need to get this out in the open. Make it so it is no longer a secret!
Record every conversation! Try to get her to tell you why she lied to the police to get you arrested! Take this to your local DA or police and explain to them what is going on. They hate to be duped. If she lied to them they will go pick her up and throw her [email]A@@[/email] in jail. Your sister told us about that! Do this before she can leave!
Some states allow for the suit of OM for invading your marriage. Put out an RO on him. Right of protection. Call a lawyer and find out what your rights are. She is going to abandon you. She does not relize the ramifications of what she is about to do. She will have to pay dearly to abandon her family.
Get on this today and now. Do not let her leave before this is accomplished.
It is time for quick action. Do it now.
After you have contacted the pokice with conversations, agree to let her come over to empty the house. Make sure the police are there, This will allow them to make the pickup all in one fell swoop!
Bust up this affair and go from there. He will not want the heat and wrath of this little fanmtasy once this is done! He will run like the coward he is!
Get strong right NOW!!!! Read up on plan A once this is done. You will need it!