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So much has been happening lately that I just feel like I'm ready to blow a gasket.

We are trying to buy a new house and our lender is giving us a hard time for no reason. Everything was going fine and now they need this and that and aren't sure that our loan will go through now.....when we were pretty much guarenteed that it would.

My H is working TONS of overtime and isn't getting much sleep due to being called back in to help fix things. And on top of that he is due to leave for Japan in about 3 weeks and he will be gone for 4 1/2 weeks. He's about to drop already. I don't know how he's going to do it.

Yesterday we had to take our youngest daughter to the hospital for an MRI because of her scoliosis. She had to go into outpatient surgery and be put to sleep for it because we had attempted 2 other tries with an open MRI and found out that she was claustraphobic. The first attempt was with no medication.....the 2nd attempt we tried with valium...that had no affect on her whatsoever. It was very traumatic for both of us....but she was a trooper and pulled through it really well...better than me actually.

They want to see whether or not there is a cause for it or it's just simply scoliosis. The new Doc says that she shows symptoms of having something called a "tethered cord" which can be operated on and she will straighten up to normal if that is the case. Otherwise she will have to start wearing her brace 23 hours a day until she is about 14 or 15. She's only 7 now.

I find myself getting sad for her because I feel like she will be missing out on so many things by having to wear it ALL the time. I wish that I could take it upon myself so that she wouldn't have to deal with it at all.

I'm running in 3 different directions all the time....trying to keep up with everything that the girls have going on. Sometimes I don't know whether I'm coming or going.

My family is mad at me....because I didn't show up for a recent family reuinion. They'll get over it though.

My in-laws have been asking my H and I to do more and more for them lately because niether of them are in the best of health.

We have friends that are asking us to go out with them and we can't even find the time for that because we are so tired.

The girls homework loads already this year are amazing. It seems like that is all our oldest one has time for after school because she has so much of it.

I'm getting absolutely nothing done for myself or my house lately because I've got so much going on. I can't remember the last time I had ALL the laundry done and folded or when I had the WHOLE house clean. I just can't keep up with it lately.

I need a break.....from reality....for just 5 minutes.

As I sit here typing I'm about to fall asleep. I get maybe 3 hours of sleep at night lately...I keep thinking about ALL the things that need to be done that aren't getting done.

AAAAHHHH.....I need a nap.

Sorry......just venting.


BS(me) 35 - WH -36 / 3 Daughters / Multiple DDays / Seperated 3 Times/ In Recovery Since 10/01
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Wow, I'm exhausted just listening to your schedule. Sounds like you have so much going on in your life. I think what I would do is #1 Make time to get some sleep. Viewing life through exhausted eyes, makes coping, extremely hard. #2 Make a priority list. #3 Let go of those things that won't matter five months from now, and stick with those that will make a difference.
Take care,

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Sheesh MP!

You have too much going on! And the worry over your youngest daughter magnifies everything else! Yikes!!

I had a similar situation when my YS was 8 with an MRI. NO ONE told me what to expect or prepare for because no one in our family has ever had an MRI.

Well he freaked out, therefore they didn't get any results...I was furious, because with a information in advance about what to expect, I might have been able to prepare him for success. As it was, the best they would let me do was hold his hand while he was in to see if we could get him to sit still long enough to get a result.

Anyway, enough about me! Can you re-prioritize all these events so your family can have some peace together before your husband leaves for 3 weeks. Do something special together over the upcoming holiday weekend?

You especially need to take special care of you, becuase it sounds like you're the glue that holds everything together.

Keep venting here. God knows it has helped keep me sane at times!


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