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today i am trying to start a new day . d day was 3 months ago. this has been harder than i ever dreamed possoble. i was the woman who told everyone if my h every cheated on me i would leave an never look back. l9ord have those words come back to haunt me. let my home for 2 months an rented a place. was unable to break contact. stilllove him so much . we have been together 11 years. agreed 4 wks ago to come homean give marriage a try. found out yesterday he has been contact with ow for at least last week. she is a coworker of his. he swears it it is over an he wants this marriagge to that he is just stupid to have talked to her . right now i am just angry an saying horrible things . cant seem to help myself. plese give advice an plan as to where i go from here. having really bad day here . cant believe i am online asking for help thanks in advance
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Get some marriage counseling immediately.
Husband must start NC of any kind right away.
Read the resources on this site about love busters and emotional needs.
Give more details and folks will be able to relate to you better.
Why did you leave when he's the one straying? Get back in your house, you're not wrong so don't act like you are. Getting tough is important.
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Get a marriage counseloror call the Harleys. Even if he doesn't go, it will help you focus. There is an article on MB on how to choose one I would read it if you havn't already. I agree your H must have NC with OW. Stop the LB's and angry words. Be strong and firm in your beliefs. I know it's hard. Know that you can work this out with him.
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As long as they are working together, expect continued contact. He needs to find another job. Will he consider doing that?
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he has talked about getting another job . he is up for promotion where he is at so im not sure
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Stop saying angry things. Read about Plan A here. It is necessary to start there. You can show him what a wonderful wife you can be.
About the job - he has to get another job. As long as they see each other at work, your marriage is in danger.
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trying to work on anger here. where can find info on plans a and b really want to change things here. he has been so quiet today. then i sit an wonder is he wanting to be with her. i told him to go be with her but he says thats not what he wants.
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