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We've been married almost 7 years ... mostly good, but things are going downhill fast.
My W has many issues and says she just doesn't care about anything. 2 weeks ago I discovered that she had had encounters with another man. It happened again yesterday.
Despite being angry and hurt, I would like to see things work out. I think I can get past what happened, but I don't think yesterday will be the last time.
Not sure how much time and space I can give her.
This is my second marriage. I don't want to be single again, but that may be the only way to stop the hurt.
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If you want to save your marriage, don't give her any space. Insist on NC with the other man, MC for you two together, and expose the affair to anyone who will be on your side.
Tough up and do it quick, or prepare for things to get worse. You're damn right yesterday won't be the last time.
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Welcome. Is the other man married? If so, expose the affair to his wife. Do they work together? If so, expose the affair at work.
Read all about Plan A here, and start there.
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The other man is married. I don't know who he is. I suspect he is a co-worker.
I also suspect other co-workers may know or at least suspect the indescretions. My wife has said that she is being treated differently and in some cases, ignored. If she has made this connection, she hasn't said anything to me about it. Then again, I'm not sure it's a co-worker.
Do you think it would be a good idea to point out the possible conection?
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Do some investigating and see if you can figure out who it is. Has she talked a lot about any of the guys at work lately?
You can put a key logger on the home computer and check out the phone calls, and a tape recorder in her car.
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She hasn't talked about anyone in particular. If it is in fact a co-worker, it would be someone she doen't have to interact with to do her job. Just someone she would see on the way in or out. It could also be a former employee.
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Jump on over to the general questions board, so we can get more input on this. Have you done any spying?
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