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I haven't posted very much because I didn't feel I had a lot to share, yet... and when I did, I didn't take most of the advice given me... but I'm happy to say that my WW has agreed to committ to our marriage.
I went away with my sons on a 9 day trip. When I got home yesterday, my WW told me she was ready to fight for our marriage.
There is still a lot of healing left, but we've already started to share more about our feelings than we ever had before. I have a lot to change with myself to rid myself of my co-dependent ways and to become a secure, interdependent person.
I've read a lot of the posts and they have helped keep me sane when I've wanted to run from the relationship. They have given me hope and allowed me to understand a little of what my WW is also going through. I'm not the only one hurting.
Thanks to all.
Shaden
BH (Me) - 38
WW - 36
Married - 16 years
2 children - 10,12
DD1 - 05/30/05 - EA suspected, W wanted space
DD2 - 07/01/05 - EA/PA discovered & confronted WW
DD3 - 07/21/05 - Further contact discovered and now ended.
11/07/05 - exposed to OMW...
07/01/07 - separated to give "space". recovery was not progressing.
09/04/07 - DDAY all over... new OM.
Patience with God is Faith.
Patience with myself is Hope.
Patience with others is Love.
FAITH REQUIRES ACTION!
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Shad,
I had a similar experience when I took my kids on a 7 day Vaca. It seems that when the WS is taken away from it all they start to realize what they are throwing away. Unfortunately in my case it only lasted 3-4 days and escalated to total lack of desire for the M (in the opinion of my ws anyway) I was actually thinking of taking the kids on another Vaca in the near future as kind of a test. Who knows...maybe maybe not, but I am willing to do anything.
R.
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I meant to say that I am very happy and excited for you. CONGRATS!, but remember stick to the plan.
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Congratulations Shaden!!!!, hopefully they'll be hope for my WW and she wake up and come home and commit to us.
Stay strong and on course
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Shaden,
You continue to ignore all the advice that is available to you.
You, my friend, are in for a HUGE dose of reality.
Best of luck. You most certainly will need it.
Divorced:
"Never shelter anyone from the realities of their decisions": Noodle
You believe easily what you hope for ernestly
Infidelity does not kill marriages, the lying does
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