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Mortarman,
I've got a military question for you. OW is full time coast guard. LCDR. My FWH has initiated NC with her. And he seems to be doing it. He tells me anytime she emails. Recently she sends things that are not about personal stuff(just fishing). He is club president of a 500 member club. She joined because of him. Any case-it's contact on her part and I can seee she will not respect his wishes. At one point she said "I leave you alone and what good does it do?"
So I'm close to contacting her CO or something. I haven't yet because FWH is doing his part and I didn't want to make waves, but she HAS to stop.
I can be more specific about her exact work, it's a Naval hospital. We're in the SE of the country. Anyway, where would you start? Would you go to JAG as I have seen mentioned or the investigators or her CO? I saw one of your posts where you actually had a phone number. I can't find anything like that on the web. Any help would be appreciated. I'm spending way too much energy worrying about her next contact. THANKS!!!
BW(me)
DDay EA 4/05
DDay PA 6/05
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Not sure about CG, since they are not a part of the Department of Defense (they are a part of the Department of Transportation). But, I am sure they have someone like an inspector general there.
I would tell your husband that tis cannot continue to happen. He should send an email or letter to her stating that continued contact will not be allowed, and that any further contact will be reported to her CO or to the IG.
In this way, your husband will be giving her one last chance to do right before she loses her career. But make sure he does it.
In His arms.
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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Thanks Mortarman,
H keeps telling me that OW will stop eventually on her own. I've told him that I'm about to contact her myself and he just does not want that to happen. So I have backed off. But it's getting tiresome and I just cannot heal. Things almost get normal round here and then she makes a contact. He doesn't even read them, just forwards them to me. But it immediately takes me back.
Would it be better if I do it or him? Wouldn't that be a contact for him?
BW(me)
DDay EA 4/05
DDay PA 6/05
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