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Reverse Babble and email? #1465427 09/01/05 07:47 PM
Joined: Aug 2005 Posts: 81 T TrixieMB Member
TrixieMB Member T Joined: Aug 2005 Posts: 81	My WH can't seem to babble enough at me when we're home, so he's decided he should email me at work with the stuff, as well. "Did you call OWH again this morning?" "I can't trust you," blah, blah, blah. Do the same rules for reverse babble apply to email? or should I just ignore them? We had one back and forth that got pretty ridiculous. Thanks. Trixie

Re: Reverse Babble and email? TrixieMB #1465428 09/01/05 08:25 PM
Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 121 T TreborRose Member
TreborRose Member T Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 121	I think it works with email to. When he brings up Trust...you know him best.

Re: Reverse Babble and email? TrixieMB #1465429 09/01/05 08:34 PM
Joined: Sep 2001 Posts: 5,906 A ark^^ Member
ark^^ Member A Joined: Sep 2001 Posts: 5,906	It depends on what plan you are in... if plan a there's no point in powerstruggling... are he and op in contact... If a hard hitting plan a what about things like... Did you call OWH again this morning you should know dear husband that it breaks my heart that I have had to contact him at all....ever.. I can't trust you," you should have great trust in me dear that I believe more than anyone else on this planet in your ability to be an honest man...and hopeful that you value honesty as well... ark and that

Re: Reverse Babble and email? TreborRose #1465430 09/01/05 08:35 PM
Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas M MelodyLane Member
MelodyLane Member M Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas	Just don't let him manipulate you into feeling guilty or avoiding the OWH. He is very worried you will ruin his affair. Please let him know that he "trust" you to stay in constant contact with the OWH until HE rebuilds trust. "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101

Re: Reverse Babble and email? MelodyLane #1465431 09/01/05 08:36 PM
Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas M MelodyLane Member
MelodyLane Member M Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas	You haven't agreed to something foolish, like avoiding the OWH, have you? "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101

Re: Reverse Babble and email? MelodyLane #1465432 09/01/05 09:11 PM
Joined: Aug 2005 Posts: 81 T TrixieMB Member
TrixieMB Member T Joined: Aug 2005 Posts: 81	WH is still determined to get a divorce. I need to re-energize. I'm getting worn out. Thanks for staying on me, Melody.

Re: Reverse Babble and email? TrixieMB #1465433 09/01/05 09:22 PM
Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 116 N NMDreams Member
NMDreams Member N Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 116	Let's see if I have this straight: you're not allowed to have an opinion on whether or not he has sex with another woman, but he's allowed to get all bent out of shape if you call another man. Perhaps you can tell him that you will be perfectly happy to agree to an arrangement whereby each of you can veto any contact the other one has with a third party. Call it something like, oh, the Policy of Joint Agreement.

Re: Reverse Babble and email? NMDreams #1465434 09/01/05 09:26 PM
Joined: Aug 2005 Posts: 81 T TrixieMB Member
TrixieMB Member T Joined: Aug 2005 Posts: 81	Quote Let's see if I have this straight: you're not allowed to have an opinion on whether or not he has sex with another woman, but he's allowed to get all bent out of shape if you call another man. NMDreams, you are so on the money. See, that's why I need you people. I needed to hear that. Thanks Trixie

Re: Reverse Babble and email? TrixieMB #1465435 09/02/05 01:14 AM
Joined: Jan 2001 Posts: 17,837 O Orchid Member
Orchid Member O Joined: Jan 2001 Posts: 17,837	Quote My WH can't seem to babble enough at me when we're home, so he's decided he should email me at work with the stuff, as well. "Did you call OWH again this morning?" "I can't trust you," blah, blah, blah. Do the same rules for reverse babble apply to email? or should I just ignore them? We had one back and forth that got pretty ridiculous. Thanks. Reverse babble works in person, on the phone, in an e-mail and even just with a look. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Here's my take: Ws: Did you call OWH again this morning? Reverse babble response: Should I? You want to me call him? Ws: I can't trust you Reverse babble response: You are right, I can't trust you. In an e-mail form there is less emotion but more time to perfect the RB. Most of us have to practice RB. Also, you have it in writing. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> L.

Re: Reverse Babble and email? Orchid #1465436 09/02/05 02:34 AM
Joined: Apr 2005 Posts: 748 L losttranslation Member
losttranslation Member L Joined: Apr 2005 Posts: 748	Quote Most of us have to practice RB. Orchid is the queen of babble. I couldn't do it at first. Too emotional. My reverse babble came out too spiteful, studded with disrespe --- not good for Plan A. It took a considerable amount of emotional detachment before I was able to learn not to take WS babble personally or seriously. Now I can babble back like the whole thing is a joke. It is really baffling for the WS. Me BS 44 XH 45 M 20 years D19 D12 DDay 11.29.04 Separated 12.29.04 Plan A 24.02.05 Plan B 10.9.05 Plan D 2.2.06 Divorce 13.6.06 OW - former friend and D12's x-godmother (Skunkypoo) OWH - philander, XH's former best friend (still shares skunkypoo with XH) Anger = drinking a rat poison and waiting/wishing the rat would notice you drink it and the rat die from it. Redhat

Re: Reverse Babble and email? losttranslation #1465437 09/02/05 08:03 AM
Joined: Aug 2005 Posts: 81 T TrixieMB Member
TrixieMB Member T Joined: Aug 2005 Posts: 81	Orchid - any thoughts on writing a 'Babble Bible' LOL Trixie

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