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I just wanted to tell all of the FWS here thank you for being here! I think it is very noble of you to offer your insight, experience, and support to people affected by the quagmire of infidelity.
Somehow, it seems logical to me that as a BS (hopefully one day a FBS) that I will repay my debt for all the support here by contributing to helping others.
Somehow, I see it as a much bigger act, requiring a tremendous dose of of self criticizm and very humble generosity, for a FWS to contribute.
There is much tenderness and respect in my heart for you.
Me BS 44
XH 45
M 20 years
D19
D12
DDay 11.29.04
Separated 12.29.04
Plan A 24.02.05
Plan B 10.9.05
Plan D 2.2.06
Divorce 13.6.06
OW - former friend and D12's x-godmother (Skunkypoo)
OWH - philander, XH's former best friend (still shares skunkypoo with XH)
Anger = drinking a rat poison and waiting/wishing the rat would notice you drink it and the rat die from it.
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I second that !!!!!! Thank you all !!!!!!
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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I agree and also thank you. It has helped me to understand the other perspective and has allowed me to make decisions differently than what I probably would have.
It is not forgotten here, but very much downplayed... WS's are also in pain and need to heal. SOME of the pain may have been self-inflicted, but it is real, none-the-less.
Shaden
BH (Me) - 38
WW - 36
Married - 16 years
2 children - 10,12
DD1 - 05/30/05 - EA suspected, W wanted space
DD2 - 07/01/05 - EA/PA discovered & confronted WW
DD3 - 07/21/05 - Further contact discovered and now ended.
11/07/05 - exposed to OMW...
07/01/07 - separated to give "space". recovery was not progressing.
09/04/07 - DDAY all over... new OM.
Patience with God is Faith.
Patience with myself is Hope.
Patience with others is Love.
FAITH REQUIRES ACTION!
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And the BS's here helped me see things from my H's perspective until I became I bs, and then personally understood so thanks back to the bs's <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I am very fortunate to be here, and I also thank all the other FWS's for being there for me and understanding when I felt so misunderstood <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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i would not be who i am today if not for the people here.
the kindness of those here is so very appreciated.
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Now, let's not get all mushy. Oh, OK.. <<GROUP HUG>>
FWS
Married: 1976 AS: 1991
D-Day: 1992 AE: 1993
Still married.
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Booohoooo.
Sorry JM. I got real mushy. {{{{{hugs}}}}}}
XBW
DS16 & DS22
PLAN D: finalized!
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