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Believe it or not, this can be a problem too.
I've been told I'm "scary" and "intimidating."
Is there any help for me? To answer the original question... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> I think men who lack confidence are the ones who would find an "opposite of shy" woman as scary or intimidating. I wouldn't let it bother you. Obviously it hasn't if you're going out with scary #1. That being said, a woman who carries on a monologue instead of a conversation in the guise of lacking shyness is a bit tiring too. As I believe Faith has said, if you show an interest in what the other person has to say, then there shouldn't be a problem. Just recognize that sometimes you have to help draw the person out. Good Luck!
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Well to give you all a quick update.
My scary date went really really well! We sat and had a few cocktails and talked for over 6 HOURS! And I did NOT do all the talking by any means!
And he called me the next day, and we plan on talking tonight too. And we have some tentative plans to see each other Sunday night when he gets back into town! He's a real sweetheart of a guy! WOW.
Crystal -- we should start another thread about some of the points you bring up. I've had some issues with guys wanting to rescue me, when I don't need rescuing.
I've heard that confidence is a desired trait, and yet there seems to be an awful lot of men out there that like to be a KISA.
If you've ever read "Mars/Venus" there were some really valid points in that book. I don't need things to be fixed for me but I do like to vent about them! I had a boyfriend actually get mad at me because I fixed my own car. (hello....I'm a drag racer, I ought to be able to fix more than a few things without help!) I called him to "vent and complain"...he instantly went into fix-it mode. I said thanks but I've got it handled, and he wouldn't speak to me the rest of the night.
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You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you stop to look fear in the face. Challenges can be stepping stones or stumbling blocks. It’s just a matter of how you look at them. The purpose of life is to live it, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience
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KISA = Knight in Shining Armor <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> ... which I like, BTW, even though I can do plenty on my own. (yep, prolly needs another thread LOL) Glad your scary date went well, Lex! woo-hoo! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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I've talked to him everyday. What a sweetheart of a guy!
I'm smitten!
I love that he doesn't play games! He calls when he says he will -- and even more! And he tells me that I'm on his mind...I don't have to wonder if he's interested or not...
So far so good!
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How nice for you Lexxxy, he sounds like a keeper. Time will tell. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
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