hey guys
it has been rough this week WH gave me a bad check for child support and it overdrafted my account. so I had to borrow money to get back to work this weekend. I need to work extra shifts to make ends meet. He has pretty much quit working his extra job. so no money there he is broke. at the rate he is going he will never be able to afford his divorce laywer let alone a D.

He is attempting to take on the victim role and continues to blame me for the whole break up of our marriage. He thinks what he has done is right. He feels that I have turned his children against him, he feels like I involved the children when my oldest knew what was going on before I did. So who involved the kids not me. He telld me he was going to leave anyway. That is crap I had asked him a week before i found out if he wanted to leave and he told me no. He needs a reality check cause I am tired of being the kicking post when he has problems from his choices. I no longer will speak to him. Unless it has to do with child support or the kids. He is ignoring my boundries and the advise I recieved from my laywer. he thinks he can do as he pleases. That is a laugh

he is broke and it will get worse with the price of gas. it is going to get bad for him. I can already see it. but this is his mess let him clean it this is what he wanted let him wallow in it. I have been attending a churh that I feel welcome in and I feel like I have come home. I put my faith in God and will let him lead me where I need to go. My feet are set on a path directed by him. I have come to realise that if i stray form the path God gives me nudges to get me back on the path. I will follow where my father leads me to go. I am doing the right thing by wanting to save my marriage i am doing the right thing by turning to him. I am in the right in what I have done I can hold my head high and feel no more shame in what my husband has done the shame is his alone not mine. The guilt is his not mine.

Which ever way this ends I can hold my head up and say I did the right thing, I did what I had to to try. I have done all I can to be the light and he doesn't see it but with Gods help I will still shine and with all that I have learned I will be the beacon that leads him home or for someone else later on.

Joanna,

Good to hear from you and despite all that is against you, you have a greater force with you....so you will and are surviving.

Your post sounds postive and one that is moving forward. It is hard for us to have to leave our spouses in the hands of an alienbeing who keeps making foolish decisions/choices. But we must for our personal surviival.

You can now see right through his babble. When mine played the woe is me, I'm broke card, I told him these where his choices and if he chose the OW over his family, then she'd batter anty up to his expenses. LOL!!! OW even tried to give him 'blood' $$. The WS in my case was smart enough NOT to keep it (though he did hold it for a couple of days), it wasn't enough to end the A by itself. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> But it was one of the turning points for him. See $$ can not be as easily manipulated as our emotions. You either have $$ or don't have $$ for the A.

Keep up your spirit. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Hugz,
L.

this is really good he is being caught in his lies now by friends. He had everyone fooled a friend of his called last night and we talked he asked if WH had the kids this weekend and I told him no and that wh had been no help with the kids and the whole sorted story. then he asked about some other stuff and i told him the truth about it all.

I am doing the best I can with what I have been dealt. So now he is going to have to live with his decisions. Yes I can see through his babble and the hurt is less now then it was I am growing strong in my resolve. I will not budge the funny thing is he will pay me my child support for last week and turn around and pay me the next months installment so he is really going to be broke so maybe he will have to change his thinking. cause his OW won't be able to support him on $6.00 an hour she makes. or her child support. I know it can't be much cause or at least enough to have him continue a 60 mile drive to work. HA HA the Lord moves in mysterious ways

See where your patience pays off? That clear mind and calm heart thing helps you see through the babble and take care of yourself and your family.

Good, this is progress. You also see how you don't have t/d much work. Expect him to accuse you of telling his friends. Expect him to make you feel guilty for his poor choices.

Practice your reverse babble lines now so you are more prepared for the babble onslaught that c/b coming your way.

BTW, if you get a chance, please step over to visit fredswife. She is one angry BS. While she realizes she can't control her WS, she also has a lot of bottled up anger and it is spilling on the board. Your input c/b valuable but only if you are up to it. For me posting to others is a form of therapy and payback. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

take care,
L.

okay you quenn of reverse babble how do I respond to these statements.

It is all your fault that this divorce is happening.

You brought the kids into this and shouldn't have

you have turned the children against me


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