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#1467574 09/05/05 11:14 AM
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It's been ages since I've been to Sunday School. But, this morning, I woke up with this old song I learned years ago at church going through my head. In part in goes, "Count your blessings name them one by one. Count your blessings see what God has done." A message from Above?

It's been almost a year now. I miss my H. I miss my marriage. I miss our nuclear family. However, my life is not over. Sometimes, we have to take stock of the good things and there are many good things. Okay, my blessings...

-I clued into about WH's A almost immediately after he came home from the trip where it started.

-Not long after D-day, I found MB.

-WH isn't weird about money and continues to support us.

-My Inlaws are supportive though not proactive. At least, we can communicate.

-Although WH doesn't contact or spend time with his kids, we aren't having any nasty custody battles.

-The kids haven't been introduced to OW.

-My kids and I have grown much closer together. We can talk about many things and enjoy being together.

-I can now talk to my mom about things of substance.

-My health is good.

-I have many, many good days.

-I am even more independant. I can deal with the car mechanic, get the roof fixed, tile a bathroom and change the batteries on the smoke detector all by myself. I am a woman who can __________(fill in the blank).

-I have found a job that works with my daughter's schedule, has benefits and that so far, I really like.

-I know how many good friends I have.

-I am living a good, moral life and it will get better.

-Plan B is working for me.

-God has spoken to me more in the last year than ever before in my life.

-I am blessed.

That's probably just a few. I guess I'm out of the gloom-and-doom stage. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. And I'm grateful for it.


Grapes are versatile. Grapes can be sour, sweet, sublime as wine and fabulous even when old and dried out.

Me: BS
XCH: Clueless
2-DS: Bigger than me
1-DD: Now also bigger than me!

5/6: Personally served CH with divorce papers
6/6: CH F? wants to time to see if M can be saved
7/6: FCH reenters our lives to work on marriage but secretly signs papers to start divorce...what's that about?
Mediation set for November
Final dissolution in January 2007.
2008 and beyond: Life goes on...
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I like your way of thinking. Thanks for the glimmer of sunshine after the storm.


In the end, I have nothing to lose but everything to gain, by trying to save my marriage.

Me, betrayed wife 46
Former Wandering Husband, 51 E/A 2005
28 years of marriage
DD 26, DS 24
O/W aka, Rat 29, A-D Assisted Living
Discovery 8-20-05 Recovery ongoing.
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Isn't it amazing what we can do and become when tested?

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It is exhilarating when you realize that you have come out on the other side a better person and knowing that you can do anything you put your mind to. Congrats Grape.

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My situation sounds much like yours and I have the exact same blessings.

We are truly lucky to be able to count them.
I am always amazed at where people find their strength in a time of crisis.


What goes around comes around

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