for him. Nice of me to do him the favor, I suppose. I need some input, please.

Cool! I would call up the OWH right away and let him know that contact has continued. Tell him everything you know.


They were huge lovebusters to the AFFAIR, you mean. They were very helpful to your MARRIAGE, because they are RUINING the affair. Those are the kind of lovebusters you WANT, Trixie! Those are GOOD lovebusters! So, call the OWH again at your first opportunity and be sure and let your H know he has been BUSTED again!


Yes, you should worry about NC. You should worry about why he is still in contact with the OW. Keep working on busting up that affair, Trix, or there will be no recovery to talk about. As long as the affair goes on, recovery is impossible.



You are putting the cart before the horse. You are miles away from talking about recovery because they are still in contact.

Hi, TrixieMB.

You can't spend your life in fear. You can't control what your husband thinks or does.

What you can do is to deal with the immediate problem of continued contact.

He will get angry that you interfered with his fantasy, and now you have interfered with the potential for its rekindling. So what.

You have had people get mad at you before, right? This time, the anger is unjustified since the relationship they have is illicit and they are infidels.

Lose the fear dear lady. It only serves to cripple you. Lose the fear, and you regain your power.

All the best,
Gimble

Trixie, OM GF and I formed a partnership fo a while that helped police NC. OM GF told me once " Its bizzare- you are a total stranger, yet you are the only person in my life I can trust completely, because it is patently in your best interests to be honest with me".

Call OWH as often as you need to and ask to be called in return. I also found out many details of the affair from OM GF. And I also found pity or her, so I stayed my hand and did not destroy OM, another good decision on my part.

All blessings

What was the agreement with OW's H? To call when you knew of contact or just informational for him?

That s/b what determines if you should call him. Maybe he can't handle too much info right now. He needs to let you know how much he can handle or needs to know.

Right now, I think you should let those 2 (WS & OW) dig their own hole a bit deeper.

Your WS is gonna be nice until he and the OW regroup with a new evil plan. They are hatching it right now. So be on your guard and be careful. The unknown piece is where Ow's H really stands in all of this.

BTW, if you have already been label as the psycho W due to the exposure and stuff, no sweat on the contact. AFter all, you have already been charged for the crime of honesty....so might as well commit the crime of honesty. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

WS/OPs are stupid.

L.

Thanks, everybody.

Hi, TrixieMB.

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These days he loses his temper with me and the kids at the drop of the hat.
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"Hubby, I don't know if you are aware of this, but your anger is really beginning to frighten the kids, and me as well. Please stop".

If at any time you feel that he may be a physical threat, then dial 911. Don't be bullied. Don't threaten, just do it.

You are your children's hero now. Your husband is not up for the task due to his 'altered' state of mind. That means that you protect them first. For now, you must consider yourself a single parent.

You don't have to live in fear.

All the best,
Gimble

Thanks, Gimble.