(I posted this in the Divorcing forum as well, but not sure if that was exactly the right place -- yet)

Have any of you experience it when your WS insists they can see no other choice but to divorce and then start to rebuild the relationship?

I think this is the craziest thing I've heard from him yet, but he's steadfast right now. It's like this is what he needs to get a clean slate to start over.

He's also stuck in thinking we never dated before we moved in together. ?? We met online and talked for 3 1/2 months before he moved to where we live now. About 2 months after that, we moved in together, 2 years after that we got married. I'm not sure why he's stuck on this dating thing.
He says he wants a divorce and then we can date.

I've been working Plan A for about 3 months now and he's been living with his mother for most of it. We've been "dating" during this time. I thought things were going rather well actually, but now he's brought this new thing up.

Things are *not* going well obviously, he is seeking women using an online service now. So, looks like the initial A is over and we are on to the next one. He hasn't brought up divorce in a while and he was telling me that he is going thru IC to help him sort it all out.

DO some people just need to get it out of their system before they can work on things? What should I do? I'm so confused and I feel more lost that I did on d-day.