[color:"blue"]My marriage is stressing through some issues regarding control and change. We have been together for over fifteen years. My husband can't seem to accept that change in inevitable. I won't be the slim, baby-faced young lady with long hair that he married -- and maybe that's a good thing.

I means, stuff happens ! I've borne a child and been through a major illness. He has had some serious illnesses along the way as well. He's not quite the healthy-looking buff guy I married and he's losing his hair, but does that change the way I feel about him ? Of course not.

Yet, he resists changes in me -- particularly the physical. If I want to cut my hair or change my exercise routine from indoor to outdoor, he has issues. Lately, I have been on an exercise routine for about 5 months, and I'm looking pretty trim. Now, he has to critique my wardrobe selection before I leave the house. (Is he mad or just insecure ? I have never so much as thought about being unfaithful in my marriage, so why the fuss ?)

I don't want to give up, but I'm beginning to feel like I've reverted to the status of teenager in my own house.
How can I get my husband to see that change is not such a bad thing and that he too can learn to live with a slightly different me ? [/color]

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