I am a married female from asian origin.Asians usually are very conservative about family issues.Marriage for us is something that brings respect to a girl andsociety has difficulty in accepting a divorced woman.
Right from the start of my marriage ,my parents and my inlaws had conflicts.My wedding jewellery was not big enough ,and although my inlaws had told my parents to have a decent jewellery,my mother didnot spend enough money.That jewellery issue became so big that My father called my husband ,me ,and my inlaws to have atalk at someones place.My father said that I had been kidnapped as I didnot see them after the marriage for the whole week.Iwas in such circumstances where I couldnot do that.But my father paniced and brought an FBI person in case I was really kidnapped.My inlaws were pissed off.But somehow we managed to catch a flight and reach USA.
Since that date,I didnot call my parents inorder to avoid any more conflicts as my husband didnot like my talking to them.Its been two years now.I am happily married having an ideal husband.The only thing that disturbs our marriage is this conflict between the two families.
I have avoided contacting my parents on phone so that my husband doesnot get upset.But my parents think that he doesnot allow me to call them.They call me every week and I send them emails to tell them that I am fine.But my father wants a proper realtionship where I visit them and call them often.Which is really not possible for me with my husband's knowledge.
Many things happened to make things worse.and the last thing has destroyed everything for me.My mother called me and told me that the recent conflict has been solved,we have talked to them and they are concerned about what happened,I knew that this will not satisfy my inlaws as they want a n apology from the person who insulted his mother or my parents break ties with them.My husband was sitting in front of me.My father's brother in law had insulted my husband's mother and my husband wanted a formal apology from them.I told my parents that they got to talk to them bcz it is ruining my marriage but my father didnot do anything for 4 months.My husband was furious that nothing has been done about this.
My husband talked to my mother and said that you can call only if this issue is resolved.After 10 minutes,my father in law called and said that my father called him and threatened to kill him and filing a case against him.and that I had been kidnapped.
I talked to my father and he said that he just said if something happened to my daughter,I will charge you as amurderer.I just confronted him why they dontlet me meet my daughter.
My husband was asked by his parents to leave me as my father did that to me.Even I told him that with this conflict this relationship wont go long.But he burst into tears and told me that he cannot live without me and why this conflict should break our marriage when both of us are so happy and madly in love and that now we have a son together.
My inlaws are going to my homecountry tomorrow.And My husband is concerned about their safety for what if my father filed a case that I have been kidnapped.
He took me to the police officer to have a report that they have been harassed.I gave a statement that I am not kidnapped and I am safe.Now my husband wants me to sign a document which tells all the story which he will write and I dont have the guts to disagree with anything as he is not giving me that option or in better words I really cannot do that bcz it will add fuel to fire.He is also writing that if my father brings police or armed men that could be a threat to my fatherinlaw,he should be arrested.I am confused about signing this paper but I dont have anyother option.This is my decision that I dont want a divorce but if we ever had a divorce in life,wont this document be used against me while filing for the custody of our children.How can I avoid breaking this marriage?The only way I think is to stop my father from interfering in my marriage but I dont want him to be get arrested bcz of me if he really doesnot cause any threat to my father in law.

I am confused.

You are in the USA?

Where are your parents and inlaws? In another country?

Your husband tells you that you cannot contact your parents and you go along with this?

Why would your husband think he can tell you what to do?

You say marriage in your culture is about respect? Why is everyone so disrespectful to each other?

You disrespect your parents by not calling them. You disrespect yourself by not standing up to your husband when he forbids you to contact them. He disrespects you by telling you what to do. And your parents and his parents disrespect not only each other but your marriage and your autonomy as a married couple.

Do not sign anything.