This is my second marriage, my spouse's first. I have a daughter from a previous marriage and my spouse has a daughter from a previous relationship.

We've been married 1 yr and a couple of months.

Our struggles are mostly in the area of finances....children...emotional support....

I resent that I carry the burden of having to work to afford what we have. For about 6 months of our marriage I was solely providing for our family.

I want another child, but my spouse isn't "ready". I'm afraid he'll never be ready. I don't want to pressure him into having another child, but I don't want to give in to the idea that I might not have another child. If I can handle two little girls without much help from him (he works at least 70 hrs a week) I don't think another child will make a difference. He sees his daughter for about an hour on the days he has her with the exception of Sunday, because that's his day off. So the majority of the time that his daughter is with us she's in my care. I love this little girl. She's well behaved...easy to nurture and is welcome in our home!

I'm not feeling any kind of emotional support. I know that my husband works a jillion hours, but that limits his time for us as a family. I'm solely responsible for caring for our children.....running the household...paying our bills....etc...all of those things that two married people should do together!

So how do I convince my husband that an 8-5 job would be ideal? What worries me the most is that we'll live this life for a long time...that things will never get better financially and that he's missing our girls grow up. Sometimes I feel like I'm the single parent of 2 kids!

I don't want a divorce....but, I think we need serious help! I'm tired of crying myself to sleep or crying during my lunch break because I'm so stressed and overwhelmed.

I'm somewhat organized and somewhat of a planner....my husband isn't and never has been. It's always last minute for him. I'm finding that I'm fantasizing about leaving and having peace of mind. Financially, I'd be better off.....BUT I know that money comes and goes....relationships don't! I'm supportive of him and I'm willing to stand by him regardless of our finances...but, what do I get in return? Don't I deserve some emotional support? Am I being extremely sensitive?

And that is why you are here!
It sounds like you got married when he wasn't working, is that right? And you supported your family for six months while he searched for work.
I imagine that was incredibly hard on you. It was probably also really hard on him -- most men are really demoralized, I think, by not being able to provide for their families. And six months of not having work would be lousy.
So now he's been working 6-8 months at a new job, and putting in a lot of hours. You probably thought some of the pressure would be off you when he started working, but in fact, you feel like you are now a single parent!
Are you sole custodians of his daughter, or does he have to pay child support to his ex-wife? Is it possible he owes back child support and has to get it paid off?
I don't think you are being unreasonable in feeling you need more support. I really don't. You are carrying the burden of raising two children, one of whom is not even yours, plus the debate about having children.
I think your wanting to have a child is reasonable and valid. But if he is working lots of hours to catch up financially, his head may just not be in the right place to make that decision clearly right now. Right now, he might say "NO" -- give him six more months in the same job, with some stability and the wolves away from the door, and his answer might be more positive.
Can you give yourself a holiday from making that decision for six months or so? I don't know if your age factors into it, but if it doesn't, why not take the pressure off both of you for just a little while longer?
If I've missed something, please write back and correct me -- wish you all the best!