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We are in the process of Divorce right now. I haven't talked to her in about 3 months. Not sure that I really want to hear anymore of her lies anyway.
But, my problem is that even though STBX has moved, the OM still lives here in town. We only have about 18,000 so it is a pretty small town. Everyonce in a while I will see STBX's car in town at OM's place. Everytime I do it just fills me with anger.
Also OM works at the local Wal-Mart. It has gotten to the point where I can't even go in there just incase he is there. I went there a while back with my father, was looking for something when I walked around the Isle there he was right in my face. I don't think he realized who I was right away and he said can I help you. I know if my dad wasn't there I would probably be in jail right now.
Seeing him just fills me with anger and so much crap, things that I should't have to feel. I try to do my shopping out of town but I should't have to do that. I hate even looking at bald people because it makes me think of him (he is bald obviously). I don't know how much more of this I can take. I pray I never see the 2 of them together because I know it would just push me over the edge.
I'm actually to the point where I think maybe I should move, but the thing is I'm just starting my Jr. year of college and, all my friends and family are around here. I told myself a while back that I should stay and deal with this, but I don't want to have to worry about running into OM everywhere I go. This stuff just poisons my mind, I can't stop thinking about them. I don't want to feel like this but how can I change a feeling. Anyone have any suggestions for me?
-There is no revenge more complete than forgiveness-
I tell myself this everyday.
ME=25
WW=26
married 5 years, together 7(first and only's)
D-day 3/05?
Divorced 2/06
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I am sorry that you are going through that. I would suggest counseling to help you deal with your anger, not that you don't have a right to have it because you absolutely do. The moving thing....I am one to want to pack up and get the ****** out but, if you have family and friends, they can be a huge support. That's good that you shop out of town, and believe it or not, eventually if you stay and work through your hurt, you will become so strong that someday, if you do see them together, you will be o.k.
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