Hope you don't mind that I copied your post from my thread. Let us give you a hand ok?
I recently found out that my hubby has been having an EA with a girl our daughter's age...I had been wondering where his cell bill was, well it came--2000+min of talking to HER! I ordered the previous month, again 2000+ min talking to her, then I added up the minutes to our little ones, our home #, my cell and my wk #--less than a 100. I called him on it, we almost separated on the spot--I called the girl, she said they were just friends, I asked her how she'd like it if her daddy spent that kind of time on the phone with a girl her age--she said she kinda understood my position. Anyway, my H doesn't feel like going to church, says the EA is not an A (haha)and it has nothing to do with me...I was shocked--anyway we just "celebrated" our 15th anniversary--he says he's not talking to her, but it's hard to believe when he was spending so much time on the phone with her. He claims he is unfulfilled in other areas of his life...I know he is, he has one friend who lives two hours away, works (yes works) 12-14 hour days 6 days a week, and comes home...I can see where he has been missing out on EN but he's always said I was all he needed, and I was naive enough to believe it...I PRAY EVERY MOMENT OF EVERY DAY that we see our 50th anniversary...I now would like to include you, FF in my prayers. God Bless You!
Go get a copy of the book
Not Just Friends by Shirley Glass and
Surviving An Affair by Willard Harley. What your H is doing is an A. If he has to hide it then it is not right. 2000+ minutes per month = emotional affair.
Read through the site and keep posting.