Just currious how some BS helped their WS when they asked for forgiveness and wanted to try and repair their marriages. I read so many posts where people comment that they have recovered. I think it would be very helpful to others to list things that they did that worked to help their marriages recover. Sharing success stories really inspires those who are in the beginning stages of recovery.

TexMex, just keep reading, because there are lots of success stories on this forum! Welcome aboard.

Thanks Melody Lane I hope to learn a lot on this site. Several friends have used it and told me it was helpful.

These are the things that worked best for us:

Marriage Builders, HSHN. FWH is a non-reader, so I read it and we completed the worksheets (off the website) together. Amazing what you can learn is missing from your M.

If you are the WS, answer ALL questions from BS. No matter how painful the truth might be. Don't keep anything about the A from the BS, you cannot really begin to rebuild until the truth, the whole truth is out.

If you struggle, get Counseling. Right away.

Remember that for every few steps you take forward, you will take steps back. It's normal. Be patient.

I think the most important thing I could do for my FWH, was to still love him - unconditionally, and to reaffirm my committment to our marriage.

D-Day leveled our marriage right to the ground. No kidding. In some cases it's all the BS can do just to cope, so the FWH needs to be there 100% for the other. My FWH said that just being able to look at himself in the mirror and know he wasn't a liar any longer was enough for him. It took him a long time to forgive himself, longer than it took me to forgive him.

Although it takes time, Dr. Phil says its what you do with that time that's important!