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saving_myself <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
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I'm confused, what was your name before????
In the end, I have nothing to lose but everything to gain, by trying to save my marriage.
Me, betrayed wife 46
Former Wandering Husband, 51 E/A 2005
28 years of marriage
DD 26, DS 24
O/W aka, Rat 29, A-D Assisted Living
Discovery 8-20-05 Recovery ongoing.
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There you go baby doll!! Good to hear from you this am..I thought about you all night...you're going to be just fine. Just accept all the love on this board!! They are a wonderful group of people and I hope you saw for yourself how much you are cared for!!
If you love something, set it free.
If it comes back its yours.
If it doesn't, it never was.
You can't make sense of insanity...definition of insanity, doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
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Good job! Much more positive than defining yourself as someone's wife <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Take care of yourself and children and remove yourself from the hurtful treatment.
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Halleluah!!!!
Good for you!!!
In the end, I have nothing to lose but everything to gain, by trying to save my marriage.
Me, betrayed wife 46
Former Wandering Husband, 51 E/A 2005
28 years of marriage
DD 26, DS 24
O/W aka, Rat 29, A-D Assisted Living
Discovery 8-20-05 Recovery ongoing.
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It's a great move! I changed my name about 2 months after I came to this board. I needed something more positive than what I had originally registered under.
It's a small step that makes a big difference in attitude.
Grapes are versatile. Grapes can be sour, sweet, sublime as wine and fabulous even when old and dried out.
Me: BS
XCH: Clueless
2-DS: Bigger than me
1-DD: Now also bigger than me!
5/6: Personally served CH with divorce papers
6/6: CH F? wants to time to see if M can be saved
7/6: FCH reenters our lives to work on marriage but secretly signs papers to start divorce...what's that about?
Mediation set for November
Final dissolution in January 2007.
2008 and beyond: Life goes on...
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I do appreciate everyone here.
This is just a hard, hard place to be
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Hi,
I am having a much better day....kinda feeling like ......THE ****** IS BACK!!!(but in a nice way)!
Took care of loads of stuff, and feel back in the drivers seat.
H left 3 voice mail messages, all of them super sweet, but I did not answer the cell phone, have it on silence.
Today he went out looking at schools for the children in California, and houses to buy.
HELLOOOOO!!!!!
How about looking for a job!!
I think you need to have a job before you can buy a house!
I think the house in NH needs to be sold first!
Oh well, I guess he is in his own world right now.
No logic, no common sense.
I already had told him I wanted a rental, because I want to choose where I will be living after I finish school.
But this is the least of my problems right now.
I thought for sure he would be filing papers first thing this morning for his divorce!
His head really is some place else.
OK you were all right, and I was clueless....I am finally getting it.
I did get to talk with an attorney today, and the mediator.
Like I already knew, he can go and file for a legal separation right away, and then wait for the 6 months to file for a divorce.
If he files in NH, then one of us will have to appear in court and if I am already in CA by the time the courts do their thing, why should I have to fly back here.
I am not going to let his threats get to me now that I know my rights.
HEY, do you think if we all compile our stories we could put a book together and makes loads of money.
Or how about one of those reality shows???
Praying for a miracle!!!!!!
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>I am finally getting it.
All of us have btdt. That's why we have the patience we do.
>HEY, do you think if we all compile our stories we could put a book together and makes loads of money.
I wish. I wouldn't want to drag Wookie through it, tho. He'd rather eat glass than re-live the pain he put us thru. 'Sides, our story is more Jerry Springer than most.
- Kimmy
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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Was your H as bad as mine is being right now?
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Now there is an idea:
Just Found Out
General Questions II
Jerry Springer
A funny thought - but don't we all have some Springer stories?!?!
Saving - you have come a long way, baby! Good to see you have been given some peace. More will come with time...
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D: March 2006 (xw - multiple a's)
I have found a NEW REASON!!!!
A Treasure!!
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Going for an EMDR session tomorrow, will be working on my anger and my anxiety.
These sessions help so much.
My therapist is a blessing to me.
When my insurance ran out I told her I could no longer see her, and she said she knew that but didn't care.
She would stay with me until the end.
Her sessions are $125 each, and she has waived her fee for me.
I love her!!!!
Praying for a miracle!!!!!!
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