The question I have is fairly simple...

Did you miss being in the home you had shared with your spouse? The reason I ask this is because my WH and I have lived in our home for 17 of our 24 yrs of marriage. He moved in with OW into a little apt. Nothing there belongs to him but his clothes. How did it make you feel when you went to your home to see your children or see your spouse? Did you feel uncomfortable or did you still walk around and act you lived there? I am just curious about this.

I don't know if this'll help since for me there is no OW since my A was 10 years ago. It was revealing the truth about it that got me where I am now. But this is how I feel and hopefully many other WS's feel too.

I've been separated and living apart (wife kicked me out) for 4 months & 12 days and this weekend I stayed at my used-to-be-home to care for our children.

Let me tell you, it was tough. Every picture of us on the wall reminds me of what I've lost (she's still got pictures up to try and sell the house). Every time I go to get something and can't remember where it can be found reminds me of how much time I've lost with my wife and family. Going to sleep at night and remembering how her head felt like on my chest and the smell of the shampoo in her hair makes me cry beyond belief. Putting the kids to bed and watching TV alone or cleaning up alone fills my heart with an emptiness that I never thought I could imagine. One spot empty at the dinner table make me lose my appetite.

Remember, there's a difference between the WS in and out of THE FOG.

THE FOG is a REAL THING, Hurting..

While IN THE FOG, the WS does not care where they are living as long as he/she is with the OP and able to obtain the Affair High.

I've caught you obsessing again today.

What does this matter, Hurting? Why are you asking this question?

My FWH moved from our dream house to the ghetto... OK? He said it didn't matter to him at that time.. He wanted to be WITH HER....ANYWHERE...

Today, out of the fog, he can't believe he did that... He hates even driving near the neighborhood...

I have to agree...WS brags about the house that OW owns. Told his former business partner it was just like hers...yada yada...they are going to sell it in January (when she has equity built up) and then they are moving to FL.

LOL...for one thing OW is not on the title. I researched this. House is still in her exhusbands name and his name ONLY. Someone tell me how you can build equity in a house in 4 mos time when you haven't made a house payment in several months...OW had told me one night her ex had defaulted on several payments. OOPS...guess WS doesn't have all the details only the crap that OW feeds him.

I honestly could not care less about how he feels living over there. Nor should you sweetie. We have HOMES...HOME IS WHERE THE HEART IS...or did you forget? Anything else is just like a hotel, someplace temporary to lay your head.