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FL, thanks for the hugs. Smur, I hope I am doing the right thing. No matter what I do my DD and DS will be hurt. I told my WH last night that I am an adult and can deal with my own pain but my DD is just a child and choosing OW/OC over her well being and happiness is just wrong. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
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anytime FF. I told my WH last night that I am an adult and can deal with my own pain but my DD is just a child and choosing OW/OC over her well being and happiness is just wrong. did he have a response?
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Cos he knows you're right.
Wookie thought he HAD to choose OC b/c of their piss poor excuse for a DNA donor. He thought he was the only chance the kids would have to grow up halfway decent.
The OW in your sitch is needy and icky, right? Or is that someone else? Maybe WH feels he has no choice.
Wookie told me once that he KNEW our kids together would be okay because I am their mother (indicating that even thru the fog, he KNEW innately that the kooze was sub human).
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Wookie thought he HAD to choose OC b/c of their piss poor excuse for a DNA donor. He thought he was the only chance the kids would have to grow up halfway decent. Oh my gosh! That is exactly the sitch here! He does not approve of the way she raises her kids and wants to be an influence in his life. I said to him "so you two are going to raise him to be a liar and a cheater"?
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WH needs to talk to Wookie.......really bad!
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He's about to make the WORST mistake in his entire life....Wookie was on that edge, too....scares the tar out of him that he was that close.
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I have him almost convinced to register and post on the p/c board. Talking to Wookie would be great.
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I can tell him that just because he's living there that doesn't mean she'll change her parenting skills.
Wookie told me yesterday at lunch that he knows if he'd ended up with her it would have never lasted. How sad is that?
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He doesn't plan on living with her he just doesn't like that I put conditions on his relationship with OC ummmm...like no boinking OW or seeing OC at her house alone?
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I don't see how those are so far-fetched.
Why would he want to boink OW if he doesn't really "want" her? Idiot. Sorry, that was a DJ.
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I sat through DD12's IC session yesterday (she prefers me being there). Gut wrenching is all I can say.
Sorry having a hard time this morning. Had a major panic attack on the way to work. I am calmer now but it was rough getting through it.
When we got back from DD's C session I said to my WH that I really wanted to see a good episode of "Get Smart". I really needed to laugh, KWIM? He quietly disappeared down to the basement and came back with an old tape of the show!
We watched it last night for at least 3 episodes. I was sure to tell how thank you for his caring and thoughtfulness.
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I think I officially made my first step toward letting go of my WH. In my prayers this morning I was finally able to acknowledge that he is beyond my control and I can only control ME. I told WH this morning that if he doesn't want me to go through with the D only his actions will change my mind. I also told him I need to him to move out soon so I can begin to move on with my life. This way we are living is so not healthy for moi.
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You rock!
His head is full of rocks.
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LOL, thanks Kimmy. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
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This way we are living is so not healthy for moi. No kidding! I'm glad you are able to recognize this. Susan
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Hi ya, Sus!! I missed you. Are you ok now?
Yeah, I guess I am slow on the uptake, LOL. That is the eternal optimist in me.
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Faithful I have GOT to stop listening to Aussie so much.. I keep wanting to whack that H of yours a few good ones so he'll "wake the H*ll up" and smell the roses. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> IF NOT he'll wake some day soon & find its just the cow poo in a nice big pile out side his door. [[[[[[Faithful]]]]]]
Life may feel as if you are constantly getting kicked on a daily basis, living is about picking yourself up each day and going on and on and on regardless.
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I'm amending your statement, AW. It should read:
"IF NOT he'll wake some day soon & find its just the (c)ow poo in a nice big pile BEside him."
ROTFLMAO!
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ROTHLMAO, good one Kimmy!
Thanks for the hugs, AW
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