Well, Folks...I actually am starting to find a little peace. Heck, she was'nt even truthful on telling me where she was moving. About me, I attended church this past Sun. and been reading and praying, yes I miss her, but I'm not missing the worries and hassles. I think the Lord is calming my "storm". This going back to church opened my eyes to how wrong I was putting her ahead of the Lord in my life. I still just pray for her peace and safety...she has'nt been herself for so, so long. Later.

Wow. Tonight sucked, I stop with a friend of mine, and someone tells me that the OM from a year ago is spreading the rumor or ? fact that WW is now seeing someone else....no wonder things have turned to ******....she doing it all again. I guess although I love her dearly it's time to be done....but I still love her. I guess I'm a real fool.

Hey, I just broke the plan B...she called and I spoke with her....she said OM had still been calling and she keeps asking him to stop. Figures that he is spreading these rumors for his good...I said it's time to come clean.....she cried etc. and asked me to stop loving her. She asked to come get the rest of her things. Any thoughts? I'm getting ready to go to work right now....but realize these things are not punishment but how we grow by trusting the Lord. Pray for Mrs. WB.

Welderboy - Have you given her a Plan B letter?

No...but I discussed my feeling to her in person. I asked her to leave on labot day...telling her it wasn't what I wanted but didn't want to end up hating her. She is so confused that when I explained that I was finding peace through church and praying she said "you always have to pull that religion card"...like I was just using this to hurt her... she said "maybe I have to lose you to figure this out". What a shame when the 2 of us headed for the right things can be so strong.

You know that you need to write a Plan B letter, right?

See if you can get it together and post it here.

Why when I said it? Anyhow...I'm heading out the door going to work now...good night and put us in your prayers tonight..Thanks.

Hey Welderboy..... Keep your focus on the Lord and He will take care of you. I regret that you have to go through this pain, but remain steadfast with your faith. The Bible (not necessarily your Christian colleagues) will give you proper guidance.

Sincerely,

A Brother in Christ

U need to write it so she can read it over and over until reality bites!

Think WS' get is on the first try? Nope....2 2 much fog. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Having it in writing gives it more legitimacy. As for OM's rumors....the fact she isn't denying it is sad. C/b true or a plan for the both of them to make you hate her. WS' are sly and dangerous. Don't put your heart out there for her to step on. Better to stick to plan B and protect yourself.

As for her getting her stuff, let her. As for her saying she needs to lose you to appreciate you....that's babble. Stupid babble at that.

L.

I was just thinking about something...
This is not a Plan B thing, but it will make a point...
When my H was packing up his stuff for his move to CA, he had a pile of the letters I had written to him, apologizing for my past behavior, expressing my love for him, letting him know that I had not taken care of his needs or loved him wholly and completely throughout our marriage because of my own issues.
He had announced he wanted a D in December because everything in the marriage was my fault, I took complete blame and was on a guilt trip from ******.
(I also wrote these before I knew about OW.)
I asked him why he had kept them, and he said that sometimes he liked to read them, and that they meant alot to him.
He also said that he was packing his bible, and should be reading it more.
My point is this, when something is in writing, they can read it at their own discretion, over and over again.
I know my words must have meant something to him or he never would have kept the letters.
As for the bible, who knows.
He used to be such a Godly man, now he is mad at God for giving him such a terrible life.
When I had mentioned one time that I was praying for him, he got very angry with me, and also said something about being a faux Christian wife.
I don't know if this helps or not, but I definately would write a letter!

Well, she kind of made fun of my going back to church etc...shaken up she said" you always have to pull the religion card...don't you". I explained that I was at fault for not putting the Lord and my need with church ahead of her. She is the one that brought me to being saved prior to our marriage...and when I mention the greatness of our life at that time, she agrees how well things were. Should the letter be hand written and mailed? I worked night shift so now I'm getting off here...and will check back after lunch. Thanks, and God Bless all you folks...we are growing!

My H and I were very active in our church, now he blames everyone including the church, God, me, his mother, the list goes on.
As for the letter, I do not know, I am not in that stage yet.
I would probably mail it, but that is just my own opinion.

Orchid, she did deny having anyone else involved. Weird thing is most of this trouble began again when former OM started calling her. She asked him to stop, but never said a word about it to me. She could of blocked his calls, or perhaps got a new work number. I've got a couple things to do today...but I'll reveiw the letter thing today.