After a horrible past couple of days, my husband and I have agreed to read the marriage builders books together and to do the workbook. I do believe we are motivated enough and have caught the problems early enough to get the help we need from just reading the books and doing the exersizes. We have agreed that if that doesn't work, we will move on to the next step of finding counselling.

My question is about the books, I am not sure where to begin with them! I see that there are three: His Needs, Her Needs; His Needs, Her Needs for Parents; and Love Busters.

After reading through the site a bit I realize most of our problems are due to things covered in the Love Busters book.
But that book seems to be part 2 - the His Needs, Her Needs book is the first one, right? Is it important to follow the books in order??

Also - we are parents. So I am wondering if the His Needs, Her Needs for Parents would be a better choice for us. Is this basically the same as the original His Needs, Her Needs, except with information for parents, or is it a completely different book that covers entirely different things than the original one? Does the "Parents" version also work with the workbook???

We definitely are going to go through both of the books, or all three of them if the "parents" one is markedly different than the others.

I am just not sure which one to begin with. Any suggestions or insight would be GREATLY appreciated! Thanks.

This board doesn't get much action - especially on the weekend. YOu might have better luck on the Emotional Needs board. Someone there can give you advice.

I came to the site several years after my divorce so I am useless on this matter.

All I can tell you is where to go to get a better response.