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I discovered my W's A about a month ago. We are working on our relationship. It will take time and that's going to be difficult.
When my wife and I are together, things are generally very good. When we are apart (at work etc..) I feel overwhelmed with pain and mistrust.
We are making progress ... slowly. I'm still not sure where we will end up.
I've started going to Al-Anon meetings and that has helped tremendously.
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Been there. Done that. Got several T-shirts.
I found the Al-anon meetings extremely helpful for a while at least, and still treasure the friends I met there.
It has only been a couple of months for myself and WH, but it does begin to get easier. I still spend a huge amount of time lurking here, and the information I have read is invaluable.
Hang in there. There is hope and it does get better with a lot of hard work and time.
BW 47
WH 48
D-day 6/28/05
Divorcing 2/06
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"Progress is so slow" .... this is to be expected.
You will be tested in ways you never imagined.
Take excellent care of yourself.
((( hugs )))
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Hey Robert that is exactly how I felt, I mean EXACTLY!
I'm currently enjoying an excellent recovery and you can to, just be patient. The hurt will fade a bit and her A won't be the first thing on your mind every morning forever.
BS (me) 36
FWW 32
DD 5
DS 2
D-Day & Exposure 4/3/05
D-day #2 Early June '05
In Recovery
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It WILL get easier. Little by little your day (when she is not around) will not be consumed with the A. Little by little you gain power back. Little by little you see how they are starting to see what a huge mistake they made.
BW-43
WH-48
DDay-6/17/05
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