here it is in a nut shell. my wife and i separated last year in july. In this time we have got along ok then to she just stops talking with me then getting along and talking again. to her stop talking to me again.Up and down ughh.She has given me the i want a divorce line back in dec . its now sept and i am not divorced and she hasnt filed.During this time i do believe she was seeing someone that started in nov.But i think thats over now. NOw she wants my 5 year old son to stay more nites with her cause of school.Or is she lonley cause her bf is nolonger around. When she needs me to know something she has her mom tell me.Am i wrong in thinking she is being inmature by having her mom tell me stuff about our son. Why hasnt she filed for divorce. She is mad at me and i dont know all the reasons why. I never cheated on her or hit heri did have mood swings and had my issues i needed to work on and have done that. Ans she has her issues to.I just dont understand why she cant talk to me about our son she avoids me like i was the one that walked out and stopped talking

Tell you wife to stop doing this MIL go-between then. You're right, she's behaving in a immature way. Politely tell your MIL the next time she calls that you will only discuss your matters concerning your son with his mother. If your wife refuses, you have custody. If she won't deal with you, she won't see her son. Do not continue to enable her behavior.

I gaurantee you that those times when she inexplicably stops talking to you, there is a new man in her life.

I think when she stops talking its not a new man but was the same. I have never seen him or even have real proff there was someone but i would bet there was. I have confronted her on it several times and she deniyed it every time.So why if there was some one else, hide it from me, my son and her family. JUst of late her family has been asking me to do more stuff with them, my brother inlaw has been wanting to do stuff with me again as we used to till the separation and he backed off. I wonder if the bf is no longer around cause she is always home now wants my son more i had him sat sun and wed nites but cause of school he stays with her on wed nites now. That was a nite she used to go out on and now she wants him on sunday nites too. that leaves sat nite to go out and she wont stay out late cause she works at 7 am on sundays and she is not the type that can stay up late she is in bed at 830 9 the latest. And my son used to tell me his mom was on her phone all the time and now he tells me she watches tv with him more and she dosent use her phone anymore.looks like the man is gone. but she was alos having her cake and eating it too for awhile she got to live alone do what she wanted and have all the benifits of a husband with out me being there. But i did tell her mom that unless my wife calls and tells me something i will not listen if its from someone else. we are both adults and there is no reason for things to be this way. she needs to talk to me about our son cause he is what matters now not what i need or her but what he nedds and it is not good the way things are

Good for you!! I am glad you told the in-laws that you have to speak to her.

Sounds like a mess. I wish you luck.

thanks it is a mess. Just wish we could talk to each other but she has to be willing. I have been in limbo long enough and she stung me along for awhile now i see it. I am in plan b but will only talk if we talk about our son. Her friend that she grew up with thinks she is still threatening me and wont go throught with the divorce. She hasnt seen my wife for a year.Then last week my motherinlaw was watching a baby during the day and it was my wifes boos baby. I was there picking up my son and went in the kitchen to talk to my f inlaw and he mom introduced me to my wifes boss as have you meet alicias husband. I have met her boss before sandra. I just thought that was strange