Thanks again for all the help just wanted to give you a small update:


WW ended the affair 9 days ago and has pledge NC. NC has been maintained as far as I can tell since then although my eyes are wide open. We started going to MC this past weekend, it was helpful.


She has been going through bad withdraw since the A ended. She did mention yesterday was a better day and hadn't thought to much about the OM. We are doing a lot of activities together and are following the advice of the marriage counselor the best we can.

She isn't very committed to our M yet, I think she wants to go to MC more to relieve the withdrawal pains rather than to improve the M. I guess this will come in time. I am still doing the plan A and trying to be the best husband I can. It is hard though, I know I deserve a whole bunch better than I getting right now and I hope she can give me every I deserve in the future.

It is funny, I started to realize my own shortcomings as a husband and the skills I needed to improve myself. Once I realized this, I feel I can be an awesome husband to my WW, and if she never can see that then some other woman will really appreciate that she didn't. I don't want to sound arrogant but I totally get it (well as much as a man will ever 'get it') as far as what I need to be as a husband and it really helps me deal confidently with this situation.

All the advice given here as been awesome, and I would especially like to thank the wonderings for their efforts in helping me.

Cheers

Your welcome, BB/GWN. Feels great to have been instrumental in another MB success story. Though you did all the work by taking the leap of faith and trusting the plan. Also glad to see you posting and helping others.

Keep Plan A'ing. You will get treated better by WW much later in recovery. She needs to sort out a lot of this herself. However, IMO, you have given her the greatest gift of all. As a presumably emotionally neglected wife your actions have dramatically demonstrated your love for her beyond her imagination. As the fog clears, she will understand that and become so appreciative that you stood by and fought for her despite her behavior.

BTW, you never did indicate your hockey team of preference. Is is Vancouver or Edmonton?

Good luck as you continue your journey.

Mr. Wondering