well guys thanks for all your help but today the ax has fallen on my marriage. Wh Filed for divorce got the paper I have an appointment with my Att in the am. I am sorry that it had to be this way but the gloves are off and I will fight him in court it appears. I hope he wrote his att. a rubber check. I had just gotten back from the child support office and was doing okay until I got the papers in the mail. Oh well now it gets nasty. I will not lay down and let him have his way I am done being nice and I am tired of being cussed out every time he doesn't like what I say.
I have the money for my att and will make a large down payment on it I just hope he realises that I have the money and he doesn't.
I really hate that it has come to this but I will be fine and he will be broke. He is on the verge of losing everything he owns. I hope the girlfriend is ready to support him. Cause I have a boat load of bills I am going to dump on him. The onl reason I have made it this far is by your support and with the help of my church. But I am tired of being yoked to a man who knows nothing and will point the finger at me if something goes wrong. I am tired of him saying that I am to blame when I wasn't the one sleeping around. I wasn't the one spending money like water well hw can drowned now I am finished. I think he has killed the last bit of feeling I had for him . my love bank is empty where he is concerned. I pray that somewhere out there is a man who is respectful of me and gives me what I need and I can return it to him. I feel as though the last 8 years has been a lie. that he never loved me and was just using me to prop up his ego. He makes me sick to even talk to him and from now on he can call my att. not me
I am finished being used and mistreated, disrespected and lied about. I have 90 days until I am free of him. I am afraid and nervous about the next chapter of my life but this I know God loves me just as I am and doesn't judge me for not keeping the house clean enough or patting him on the head when his ego was shaky. I will be delivered and overcome this. I have faith in god and that is all I need right now.

sorry, ((hugs)) and a strong push to get back up and fight that dirty cheathing bastrd for evrything...

I plan on cleaning his clock for him I always told him it was cheaper to keep me then to D me now I will make a believer out of him. I do not play when it comes to court. I have enough dirt to hang him

Dear Joanna,
He that plays, has to pay. That is my favorite line.

yes they do in this life and the next

Joanna32,

Let him have it.......however, I suggest giving all you have to the lawyer(s) and let them do the dismantling unemotionally . You can then step back and watch.....from a distance. Call it a plan B if you want without the hope for reconciliation. My concern is when one becomes focused on an end result such as you have specified one may not like who they have become when the battle is won.

i will not have a hand in my Att will handle it. I will not be emotionally involved i will list my demands and let her go to work. All of this he brought about by his own hand. Not mine. this is wha he wanted all along so I hope he enjoys it cause I have a good job and can make the money to keep my Att paid he can't. He wants out then it will hurt in the pocketbook. I am done playing with him. I am no longer his doormat. I am defending my children and my rights to be treated fairly and hey if he gets a little mud on him yeah for me. I have broken all contact with him so it will be unemotional for me. He was warned about what would happen he just choose not to listen.

I have turned it all over and am letting the att. do the work. I wait to give him time to get straight but now is the time for tough love. I care very much for my husband but not the wh he has become. So now it is time for an old fashioned KY butt whooping. I warned he a long time ago it would be cheaper to keep me then to divorce me.

When we started dating I told him I had 3 rules and as long as those where followed we could get along through any thing he has violated 2 of them already and I am not abou to alow him close enought to break the third. I am as easy going as any one I have a firm belief in family. My rules are as follows.

1. Do not cheat

2. Do not beat

3. Do not lie

If theses are followed I can get along with anyone and do fine I am respectful of the men in my life until I am being disrespected. I think more of the other persons feelings and how they would react to my behavior so I never did anything but walk the line with my behavior. I believed in if you wouldn't want it done to you do not do it and I have always felt that way that is why I was never tempted to stray.

Well anyway hw is going to be so broke when I finish he won't be able to pay attention. Oh and a little ha ha he wrote a bad check to his Att. I fine this a little funny when I payed mine with cash

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