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Hey, just wanted to say that aroung here..."Get er dun". I'm not as happy as with when Mrs. WB is around, but I don't want to be so serious that I lose my sense of humor.I've been very busy, but been riding my Harley a bunch,working the rest of the time around the house as so it still seems like a "home". I have no idea where she is living...I do trust that she is not running with any man!!!That the last thing she wanted right now she had told me...I also saw where she had logged on to a Credir Union site? Just browsing to look I guess, I put her bike for sale...but this was a joint descion...and I'm not doing anything that would harm us if she was to "ever" return home. I do still love my "little girl" and am starting to really beleive...it's 100% up to the Lord and her as to what happens. Later.
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Sounds like a plan. Moving on does have it's benefits, you know. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
How are you doing now?
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Well...the plan fell apart last night. I was alone, drinking in strange places with strange people. Today...I'm just kind of wondering around...in my own confusion. Heck...I'm clueless.
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Well...the plan fell apart last night. I was alone, drinking in strange places with strange people. Today...I'm just kind of wondering around...in my own confusion. Heck...I'm clueless. Well now sit reeel still 'cuz I'm gonna whack some MB sense into your head. R U sober yet??!?!? L.
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Yes...I'm sober...but feel crappy. Hey, Mrs. WB phoned Friday as I was going out the door to work. She said it's really been tough. I'm really not sure about what she meant...heck it's tough for me also. Anyhow, she said that she found on of my shirts in her laundry and she held it and it smelled like me...I found one of her little socks in my stuff and cried. When I shared that with her she got teary also. I miss, her...and I'm not really to give up yet. I feel stupid about last night but a good friend of mine came after me...he told me to forget what anyone says and to follow my heart. Pray for us!
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{{{hugz}}}} Now stay sober and stop sniffing socks. LOL!!!! Smells transcends through the fog so that is a good thing. Be glad she finds your scent pleasing. LOL!!! Ok, so you are back on track and I don't have to whack you upside the head?!?!? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> L.
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She also mentioned that her counseler worked with her well Friday and she said she would like to share that with me. I haven't heard from her since. I know how deep this love was....and buried below all this crap is still there. She left a "Marriage Prayer" on our bedroom wall. I read it each day. I want my old wife back....
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Let her know you are wiling to speak to the MC. It is better to hear it from the MC than her right now and sends the message you need to get clear info not fog babble.
Notice how simple contact sets you back?!??!?!
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Yes, contact sets us back or me? Hey, she just phoned told me how rough the week was...she misses me. She asked if I wanted to go get something to eat...but I did'nt want to go out so she is bringing food over. Is this wrong?
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Which plan r u suppose t/b in and why?
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I was or am in a 2nd. week of a plan B. She came over...we had another talk...and she wants to come "home". There is going to be more conditions this time, along with MC and I'd like to do a Dr. Harley weekend. Give me your thoughts.
Mrs. WB also would like to quit her job...and stay home. Her career has caused us nothing but grief. This is a huge step.Later.
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Whatever plan B you implemented isn't working now. You have been in communication with her and well you may as well throw out plan B and go back to plan A.
Better yet, call Steve or Jennifer, ASAP.
IMHO B4 she even returns, she needs to convince you that her changes are permanent and sincere. You know that is what they accuse the BS of not being. Play that card before she plays hers.
Don't fall for the babble, ok?
All the best,
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I think the babble is done...she says she felt as if she was insane, and I can "feel" a difference. I really can't explain...but you can see happiness in her face and eyes. I think, the prayers of mine and others to let the Lord touch her heart, have been answered. Thanks.
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This is just the begining. Lots to go thru yet. Listen to Orchid be strong and hold firm.
married 21
Together 26 -
OW 2yrs, he worked with her and found secret e-mail account.The first cut is the deepest.
just found out H is a serial cheater - total cut to pieces now- saw a D lawyer today.
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Lay down your boundries before she moves back home. She needs to agree to your terms before she sets foot in the house. Or it will be back to business as usual. Don't be so eager to give her forgiveness at first, leave a little mystery about you, saying only what needs to be said, and let her think you are calmly assessing the best options for you and your children.
In the end, I have nothing to lose but everything to gain, by trying to save my marriage.
Me, betrayed wife 46
Former Wandering Husband, 51 E/A 2005
28 years of marriage
DD 26, DS 24
O/W aka, Rat 29, A-D Assisted Living
Discovery 8-20-05 Recovery ongoing.
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That w/b good but right now you need more concrete proof than a feeling. Sorry but even if the eyes look good, it c/b still fake.
Watch her reaction. If she puts your feelings and needs ahead of her's along with the eyes or remorse and actions to match, then you got something more solid. Not great but a start. With that you and her can start building. Remember she has t/b the one to do most of the work. WITHOUT GRUMBLING!
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We have no children...and she has already taken the last 2 days off work and has settled back in.I just can't put into words the difference in her though? I'm already working together on my expectations and tonight she said she had just realized that the troublr in the marriage was mostly her "problems" from the past and a bad marriage she had. I also think that this time her family giving supportof me as a "great husband" with a true love is really helping. Her family is really close...having the support of them really makes me feel better also.Thanks all.
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