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A year in recovery.
My baby loves me.
I love her.
We're great parents and moving forward in recovery.
The affair is toast.
And our mess was just about as nasty as they get.
I'm nothing special, yet I killed an affair and managed a year of recovery.
Have faith.
All blessings.
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Beautiful, beautiful words. May God continue to bless you and keep you.
Faith
me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
DS 30
DD 21
DS 15
OCDS 8
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Great news, Bob. All best wishes to you and yours. What a difference a year makes!
me-FBS M-6/84 3 great kids
A-2/03-5/04 DDay-5/8/04 WD - severe-5/04-9/04 with continuing C; NC ltr-9/3/04
In Recovery with God's help
Praying for all WS/BS. Blessings!
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Great news Bob and Squid. Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Divorced:
"Never shelter anyone from the realities of their decisions": Noodle
You believe easily what you hope for ernestly
Infidelity does not kill marriages, the lying does
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Whooooohoooooooooo <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> THat is SO great. 3 more months until NC/D-day on my end...but we got 9 months to go for Sprints. I can't wait to hit those dates and see the wreck behind us more and more distant.
I am SO proud of ya Bob - you should know that! You are one amazing man, and I sure can tell Squid is one amazing woman - I wish one day she would come on her so we can all meet her!
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<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
FWW (me)34
BS 36
EA lasted 3 months
First D-Day: 3/7/04
Second D-Day with total truth: 4/13/04
NC established: 4/14/04
In recovery and doing wonderful!
The light shines through the darkenss; and the darkness can never extinguish it.
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Congratulations, Bob. It beats tree bark, hands down <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> God bless, Gimble
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
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Congrats Bob,
Wish you and your FWW all the best!!
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I'm seeing it bob, you are an inspiration.
BS (me) 36
FWW 32
DD 5
DS 2
D-Day & Exposure 4/3/05
D-day #2 Early June '05
In Recovery
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BobPure,
Congratulations! I am grinning ear to ear for you. YOU DID IT! I hope to follow in your footsteps....
Kimberly
D-Day May 14th
DS, Age 5
Married 13 years
re-exposed last week......WH sleeping in extra room going on 8 days.....Not sure if there is contact
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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crumpets on me... if I knew what the filth one of those was...
good for you Bob.
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It gets BETTER my friend .... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> You can look forward to even more wonderful changes in the years ahead .... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
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Bob, if you ever come to MN and you don't call, I'll hunt you down.
Congratulations, dude.
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Congratulations BobPure and Squid,
You are my inspiration and give me hope for my marriage. You and Squid deserve a lifetime of happiness.
In the end, I have nothing to lose but everything to gain, by trying to save my marriage.
Me, betrayed wife 46
Former Wandering Husband, 51 E/A 2005
28 years of marriage
DD 26, DS 24
O/W aka, Rat 29, A-D Assisted Living
Discovery 8-20-05 Recovery ongoing.
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b0b - you are an inspiration to the hopeless.
Thank you for sharing with this community and giving us (me) some hope.
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!! (with sound of fireworks for you!)
far
foundareason
D: March 2006 (xw - multiple a's)
I have found a NEW REASON!!!!
A Treasure!!
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Congratuations. It is so nice to hear success stories.
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*cracks open bubbly* Here's to you and Squid - ol' silverback and his missus! (Soz I was grumpy before - didn't mean it <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> ) Alph.
Me, BS 37
Him, WXH (Noddy) 40
DD13, DD6
Married 14th August 1993
D/Day 2nd April 05
Noddy left us 3rd April 05, lives with OW (Omelette) 28
Divorce final 6th July '06.
Time wounds all heels... - Groucho Marx
...except when it doesn't. - Graycloud
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Bob, congratulations to you and Squid. I think looking back on the past year must feel like a victory to you but certainly it was most hardest and difficult time of your life... So I think looking back must bring you mix feelings of joy and sadness...laughter and tears. I think you have grown so strong & wise on emotional and spiritual level during the past year Bob that you will be able to conquer any struggles and problems which may cross you path further in life. And you also have God at your side.
My best wishes to both you and Squid Bob. May your happiness and love just grow stronger and stronger throughout the years. You and Squid deserve all the happiness in the world.
All blessings,
Suzet
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Thanks everyone.
To anyone just behind me in this journey I want to say something that I wish I had been told.
Killing the affair , de-fogging, ,withdrawing, reconnecting - those are intense, but uncomplicated objectives.
When you acheve all those objectives there is joy and pride, but a HUGE construction lot in front of you both with some tools but only general instructions.
I arrived here not knowing what I wanted to build other than I did NOT want a facsimile of the marrige that grew an affair !
My advice is as soon as you are able look BEYOND the affair and its immediate aftermath to the marrige you want to rebuild. Study MARRIAGEBUILDING not just AFFAIR ENDING even if the affair is not yet dead.
That way you will arrive at the building site with MORE tools, MORE materials and at least a sketch of the Marriage you want to build new !
All blessings.
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B0b,
I am so glad that you are here. Your story is so inspiring and gives me so much strength. I hope that one day, my prince charming and I will be following in you and squid's footsteps!
Many blessings to you both!
Me BS 44
XH 45
M 20 years
D19
D12
DDay 11.29.04
Separated 12.29.04
Plan A 24.02.05
Plan B 10.9.05
Plan D 2.2.06
Divorce 13.6.06
OW - former friend and D12's x-godmother (Skunkypoo)
OWH - philander, XH's former best friend (still shares skunkypoo with XH)
Anger = drinking a rat poison and waiting/wishing the rat would notice you drink it and the rat die from it.
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