So, I'm finally divorced, ExWife #2 and I don't know how I feel, I mean, I have so many feelings going through me right now. Hurt, anger, disappointment, regret and failure. Yes, I feel like a failure!

My XH came by last night to help me he said. He thought I might need someone to talk to.

OMG, is he delusional? Yes, I need someone to talk to but, it sure as H*LL isn't him!

He keeps calling me and leaving messages asking how I'm doing and how he wants us to be friends. Well, that's all well and good but, I'm going to need some time. I feel so alone and hurt!

I've already told him, maybe someday, in the very distant future, I might be able to be his friend but, right now the way I'm feeling, seeing him or talking to him just make things worse.

I'm going to spend the weekend with some friends, maybe a few days of male bashing will make me feel better, I don't know. All I know is, I want ice cream and lots of it!

I hope someday I can find the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow but, for now I feel like the troll under the bridge.

Thanks for letting me vent.

Only

Only,

You must be hurting, but your post was so funny.

I can't believe your X thought you'd want to talk to him! The man must be delusional.

You know what it sounds like? It sounds like 1. he thinks you're incredibly weak. 2. He's a god and you can't get over him. 3. He wants to keep a foot in the door in case he can achieve Friends with Benefits status. (See After Divorce board for details on that quagmire!)

Go eat ice cream all weekend. Throw in some chips and salsa for me. And maybe a margarita if you drink. Just one though. There's nothing worse than a hangover when you're under emotional strain.

Now, if only I could write the same.... "I'm finally the ex." I'll be posting "Halleluia."

GreenGables:

Thanks for your reply, cool name by the way. Is your first name Anne?

Well, this isn't the first time that he's tried being my friend. A while back he sent me a present and then got mad when I didn't acknowledge it or him.

He's tried to put the moves on me on more then one occasion too.

I seriously think he's trying to keep my on the side lines, he's insane. He thinks he can keep me for whenever he wants a booty call. I DON'T THINK SO!!!

Yes, my first name is Anne.

I love your attitude. Take care of yourself, and don't fall into the trap of thinking all men are like that. Over on the After Divorce board you can get a glimpse into the minds of men dating. Nice men. It's fascinating and encouraging.

And now the healing can begin.....