H told me today that the air national guard called him yesterday and said they bumped his spot for combat training, that now he doesn't have to go for a week to florida?! what the??? I asked him why and he said he did not know. I asked him how he was supposed to go to iraq without combat training and he said he guesses he is going with out it... can you explain what is going on? remember, I thought they would talk to him in florida this week. He LTC had told me that after they talked with h he may just decide not to take him to iraq at all remember? To my knowledge they have not talked to him yet as I am sure h woulda said something to me and LTC said he would tell me when they did. Do you think they have decided not to take him? Please help!!!!!!!!!!! mlhb

Settle down. Just because his training was cancelled doesnt mean it has anything to do with your IG complaint. It really doesnt.

Who knows why they cancelled it? Could be they have to reschedule. Or they need to bump up the deployment and thus they dont have time for all of the training. There are a whole hosts of reasons why, but I am sure none of them have to do with your husband's affair.

Like I said, the LTC will talk to him. He has an open IG complaint, and cant have it closed until he rectifies th situation. And believe me, the IG is looking over his shoulder. So he will get on this as soon as he can. I am sure there is a lot on his plate right now. Sometimes, these things take a little while. Because of priorities. And he may have a few things he is dealing with that are more pressing than this.

So, calm down. Settle down. Let the Army work. As in any government agency, things proceed slow but steady. I would imagine this will be taken care of shortly.

So, hang tight and they will take care of things.

In His arms.

H made it sound like it was only HIM that was not going to training, that the rest of his unit was going. does that make sense? they just called on wednesday and said that they were meeting on sunday at 4am to depart. then they call his cell on friday and tell him his spot was bumped HE didn't need to go. that is what confuses me. I don't think it was the whole unit, just him.

Just seemed odd that is all. I started thinking maybe he was not going to iraq now and darnit I am looking forward to him going so I can have a break from him!

sorry if I seem spazz, just impatient I guess. I pray everyday they talk to him soon and that God give me patience while I wait... oh, and it's air force not army :-) thanks, mlhb

also I am planning on filing for contested divorce next month.... should I wait to tell h about this until the military talks with him and wait and see if THEY are going to force his hand and make him get one? would save me some money. But would I get everything I am entitled to if he files for divorce??? (he hasn't even seen a lawyer to my knowledge, he has no plans of paying for a divorce I am sure) mlhb

BUMP! mortor, when I talked to h today he said HE was the only one not going, that the rest of his unit did go to combat training. He said he did not know why he wasn't going and that he found it odd.... any thoughts??? mlhb

Not mortor, but it appears that your husband may not be going to Iraq. I'm sure someone will talk to him and tell him what's going on. Maybe they feel he is not mentally ready to go?

Just curious, why are you so adamant about exposure if you have already decided to divorce?

Not sure what you mean by get everything you are entitled to? As far as the military aspect, since he is not active duty I am not sure how that works. Would probably depend on how long you have been married.

Best of luck in getting your answers!!

I have been adament about exposure since finding out about the A. The military is just the last aspect of it. I am hoping they will put pressure on HIM to get the divorce so I don't have to pay for it. In the state my H is in there is NO chance of us working things out. He is whacked right out right now. H needs to know there are consequences to his decisions and ths military has a right to know that h is making a mockery of their moral standards. Everything I am entitled to has nothing to do with the military. What I will get in the event of a divorce according to our state laws. Right now I will get alimony, child support, the house, his retirement, etc. I want to make sure if HE files for the divorce will I get the same things. I think I would.

I am just trying to figure out why they only told H HE didn't need to go to combat training. And they didn't tell him why. Maybe they will call him this week and let him know? and have their "talk" with him. I am just trying to find out some info on what the heck is going on is all.... thaks for your input though. I hope they do send him to iraq still, I was looking very forward to him being gone for 4-8 months, I need the break from him! Plus, I was hoping maybe it would be a positive experience for him, help him to realize all he could lose and appreciate what he had more. I know some have come back with that reality check. mlhb

I'm not sure they can force him to get a divorce? But they will give him a good talking to which he needs and deserves!

Since he was the only one not at training it really sounds to me like he is not going with his unit. If he is not mentally ready then that is the best thing all around. Well, except for you cause then you can't get rid of him!!!! I know what you mean about that! Would like to send mine off for a while!!

I hope you get your answers soon. I hate the unknown!!

when i spoke to his LTC he told me he had not yet decided if he would take my h to iraq because he was not going to put up with his bs over there. he did tell me he may not take him unless h showed proof of starting divorce proceedings. Boy, I just hope my telling the military doesn't backfire on me. I really want him to go to iraq! grrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!! mlhb

BUMP!!!!! BUMPITY BUMP!

Hey...I was gone this weekend.

You might be right...he might not be going. They may have decided that it is better for his unit that he not go. Now, is it good for the Air Force to send a airman that is not mentally ready, who cant get his stuff together...into a combat zone? There is a reason we have those moral regulations and laws. Because if he cant make good decisions here, why in the heck do we want him over there? He will get someone killed.

So, as whacked out as your husband is, you should be glad for those other airmen that he wont go. You may have done them and their families a great service here.

On filing...it really doesnt matter who files first. The judge doesnt look at the first filing and say "Well, you filed first so you win." It will be the merits of the case, and what state law says. Period. So, whatever would be due to you would come to you no matter who filed first.

I'd wait to file until after you talk to LTC. Obviously, it appears they have made a decision about your husband. They arent going to leave him the dark though. He will be called in very shortly and told why he isnt going, and told that the affair must stop until divorced.

So, that stuff is going ahead anyway. But, if they see that you have filed, they may just say that it isnt worth pursuing too much because the divorce will come thru shortly.

So, wait to hear from LTC. Since the unit is now headed to training, your husband is going to have to report for duty and find out the deal. That should happen very shortly.

In His arms.

Thank you mortor. I cannot afford to even begin the divorce process until the end of october. By then I would think they will have talked with h and maybe HE will have to do it. So I am waiting. Did mention to h that he may be being served by the end of next month or so but he cannot prove I said that and nothing has been started so I don't think it will matter if I said that to him. I don't think it will matter if he says to them "well, my wife said she was going to have me served by the end of october" I am sure they would say to him why hasn't he done it and does he have proof I have started anything which he does not because there is not.

He does not go back for a guards weekend until october, usually the first weekend. If they talk to him in person it would be then, if not I imagine they will call. I am definitely planning to wait until they are done with him. I have threatened separation and divorce so many times and never done it so I am sure h doesn't believe me anyway.

I guess I just continue to patiently wait.
Thanks for your input. I will keep posted. mlhb