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#1475385 09/17/05 08:27 PM
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Is it my imagination or are there a lot of us somewhere in the process of Plan B? How's everybody doing?

For my part, it feel great to have my WH out of the country. I don't know if slimeball OW went on this trip or not. I'm trying my best not to care. With WH gone, there haven't been anymore trick.

Anybody else?


Grapes are versatile. Grapes can be sour, sweet, sublime as wine and fabulous even when old and dried out.

Me: BS
XCH: Clueless
2-DS: Bigger than me
1-DD: Now also bigger than me!

5/6: Personally served CH with divorce papers
6/6: CH F? wants to time to see if M can be saved
7/6: FCH reenters our lives to work on marriage but secretly signs papers to start divorce...what's that about?
Mediation set for November
Final dissolution in January 2007.
2008 and beyond: Life goes on...
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Talk to Hurting..

She's on line here obsessing about her WH....


I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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Is it my imagination or are there a lot of us somewhere in the process of Plan B? How's everybody doing?

For my part, it feel great to have my WH out of the country. I don't know if slimeball OW went on this trip or not. I'm trying my best not to care. With WH gone, there haven't been anymore trick.

Anybody else?

Grape, I think you forgot also to put "slimeball" in front of WH name here in your post.

I hope all is well with you and the job and new life.

Lem <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


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I had the right to remain silent.......but I didn't have the ability.
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Hi GG,
Yes I think a lot of people are at a similar point. I for one thought I'd be in plan B by now. There are a lot of newbies on board too. I think you and Pebbles have been doing this the longest.

It sounds like you have removed yourself from chaos and moving ahead. Good for you! I think of you often and pray for you and your family. Actually I remember everyone on this board in my prayers. MB has been a God send to me and saved my sanity.

What are you doing this weekend?


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BS-45 me
WH-42
DS-14 & DD-12
together 21 yrs, married 18.5yrs
"I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04
D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06
5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06
Recovery finally began Jan 2007
We are IN love again!!!Sept 2007
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Wow GG I wish I could be doing as well as you ..... Been in a true planb since Sept8 and not doing very well here...

But I am sure it will get better ....


BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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When I get a chance, I'll go to hunting's thread.

Lemonman, slimeball is OW's honorific. Jacka$$ is WH's. I'm feeling pretty good about life. I like working with "special" kids. I learn something new every day. I'm getting a crash course in sign language and how to deal with autistic kids. I haven't had a job where I didn't have responsiblities to take home since I was in college. At this point, it feels good to walk out the door at night scotfree. I'm sure it won't last. I've already put together an Excel spreadsheet for our schedule. I used to joke that if I started working at McDonald's, I'd be a manager within a month.

This weekend, I've been to a soccer game and a Girl Scout training session. I have a troop meeting this week I need to plan for too.

Now, I'm going down to the basement with DD, a bowl of penne with meatballs and red sauce, a glass of wine and...A Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy.


Grapes are versatile. Grapes can be sour, sweet, sublime as wine and fabulous even when old and dried out.

Me: BS
XCH: Clueless
2-DS: Bigger than me
1-DD: Now also bigger than me!

5/6: Personally served CH with divorce papers
6/6: CH F? wants to time to see if M can be saved
7/6: FCH reenters our lives to work on marriage but secretly signs papers to start divorce...what's that about?
Mediation set for November
Final dissolution in January 2007.
2008 and beyond: Life goes on...
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Well I guess you could call Plan B what I am doing. I havn't talked to WH since August 17. I go through days in which I cry, like a few days ago, and then again tonight. I go through many more days in which I am thankful that I got the courage to file a divorce, because the way he was treating me was not how you treat a human being. Seeing him with OW yesterday really was harder then I thought. At the time I put on a bold face, and dealt with it. At the same time reality hits you in the face. The reality is also that they have no money, niether of their children, both facing criminal charges, and Lord knows if either of them are employed. The reality also is that my husband is no longer then man I married, and that is really saddeing..
Okay I am going on and on...sorry.

Danielle


H met OW- 8/3/04 while I was on vacation.
False Recovery- 9/18/04, 10/26/04, 5/11/05
H said he wants a DV and marry OW 11/7/04
Divorce final 10/27/05
Son-5yr Daughter-2 1/2yr

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