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You do not need to kick him out - but if he really wants to make this work like he says he does - you guys MUST agree to NO CONTACT with the OW - that means you guys need to send her a NC letter. This is the first step.
he doesn't have to sleep in the guest room or leave - as long as he is being HONEST from this day forward and that he is willing to do No contact.
You guys can make it work if he is serious about it.
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I really do not trust him, but could he mean it, that he does love me?
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i hate to rain on your parade, but words mean NOTHING. Watch his actions.
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I agree with you Believer, I am keeping a close watch on his nextel DC mins, and the OW DC mins. And i have taken this time to install a keylogger on my PC.
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Good job. Keep checking his ACTIONS. Words are cheap and mean absolutely nothing.
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Ok, any nextel users here? I have been keeping a log of Direct connect time since he has been gone, he has used 48 DC mins, she has used 53 Dc mins, hers are listed as nationwide mins. This means that they are talking right? He does not have the nationwide plan she does.
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I don't use nextel, but it doesn't sound good.
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How in the heck did you figure her plan out?
I was trying to find out info for our cell phone plan, but can check his minutes, but how do I get into hers?
I don't have Nextel, I have Verizon.
So far, my H minutes coincide with all of his calls home.
The bill will be out on Oct 10th, I will know more then.
Praying for a miracle!!!!!!
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sorry it took so long for me to read this, way too much going on, its really easy to check nextels mins, 1-888-566-6111, just punch in her number and the zip code its gives it all to you.)))
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