I have the best in-laws in the world. They have supported me and told me many times that they love me and I'm still part of this family. They even supported my exposure of the affair.

I know they miss their son very much and they have told him they disapprove of his lifestyle with the OW. Before the divorce he stated the OW didn't live in Vegas with him, but we all knew he was lying. Its been over a year and half since they saw him.

I know they were planning a trip to Vegas to visit him in October but he cancelled and told them February will be better. In the email he send, which my in-laws copied and had laying around, I wasn't snooping, the first line was the "OW and I would love to have you visit us."

I know we are divorced now, but it was like a dagger in my heart, especially since I'm emotional because my birthday is this Thursday. My WH always made that day so special for me and now he is making plans with a woman who scheme her way in our lives with disregard for our marriage and her own marriage.

I guess it still hurts and will for a long time, I was hoping when my in-laws reunited with my Wh it would be without the OW. My in-laws told me she will never be part of this family. I know they are telling me the truth, but I don't trust the OW and her evil ways to get back in the good gracious of my in-laws. This woman is calculating and would do anything to get what she wants.

I guess it seem official when he mention "the OW and I" instead of me. He has moved on with her thousands of miles away from the home we built here with family and friends. I thought affairs last around two years (which will be in October) but it seems they have made a life for themselves.

I think it is great that you have such supportive in-laws! I loved my first wife's family as much as I loved my own, but found very quickly that blood is thicker than water. Even though my ex's only reason for divorcing me was because I refused to move back to our home town (I couldn't earn a living there), as soon as she announced to her family that she was leaving me, I never heard a word from any of them ever again. So I see your story as something very special indeed!

Is this your first birthday since the breakup? Do yourself a favor and YOU make the day something out of this world. Really give yourself a great day and establish a new tradition for yourself.