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This story absolutely disturbs me.

I was talking to my sister (*Maria*) today. She is 25 and has a great job in management at a large national company that manufacturers products that we all use everyday.

Maria met up with coworkers this past weekend for going-away drinks for one of them. She and her boyfriend arrived much later than everybody else. A little after her arrival a superior (but not hers) and his wife said their goodbyes and left.

One of the guys she works with said, ‘Oh by the way *John* (the gentleman who had just left) asked for your phone number and I gave it to him. He’ll be calling you in a little while.’ Well she thought that was strange but didn’t think much of it.

A few minutes later, when her phone rang she answered it in front of the whole group. It was John’s wife. The woman asked Maria why John didn’t introduce the two of them. Maria told John’s wife that she doesn’t know why but she and John have never really talked much. John’s wife said, ‘Sure, I’ve been here before.’

Everyone knew that John and his wife had had some problems a year prior that involved his having an affair. Apparently John thought it was funny to tell his wife that Maria was ‘the girl from last summer’.

My sister was infuriated. How dare he play such awful games with his wife, let alone get her all mixed up in it!

The worst part was that after she hung up with John’s wife her coworkers started talking about how psycho his wife was. They thought it was funny and sat there making fun of the poor lady.

Maria defended her telling them that John shouldn’t treat his wife that way and of course she’s suspicious after the past affair(s) that John had.

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> Grrrrrr. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> Not only is this awful man so hurtful, but people think that this behavior is amusing and acceptable!?

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I wish John's wife would kick him out of the house until he thinks it's not so funny when your whole life falls apart anymore.

Sounds like Maria should give John's wife this website.

Last edited by NotTooLost; 09/19/05 05:57 PM.

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The only people who think affairs are funny have never been a BS or a FWS. Just think of those people as ignorant, and don't waste your time trying to educate them. It's like trying to teach Calculus to a three year old.

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Hmmmmm if I were Maria, I think I would threaten John within an inch of his life....can't she threaten defamation of character, or sexual harrasment possibly?!?!?!

What crap....this is why I don't socialize with people I work with. Too much dang drama.

Sickening

-Caren


Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.

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Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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Yep...thought sbout telling Maria to give this website to John's wife. I also suggested she say something at work about the inappropriateness of his actions. If john's wife is on this website then people here would be telling her to go to his job and expose. I'd hate to have my sister caught up in all of this mess.


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Damn NW, I'm sorry to hear about your sister. That is total crapola. I would be so angry with John that would probably storm into his office, call his wife from his phone, put her on speaker and then proceed to tear him a brand new one.

There is absolutely no reason whatsoever for dragging a completely innocent person into the hurricane you've created and call your miserable life.

I only hope Johns wife learns before she does anything stupid that your sister has had nothing to do with their problems.

God, what an [censored].


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