You need to get the title to the car or give the car back and pay them for the damage.

If you're "all grown up" and married, act like it.

Don't make excuses ("I really need the car") for keeping it if they don't let you have it. Just give it back.

Their insurance compnay should not be involved unless it is still financed.

Chris,
Please don't assume you know the whole story and accuse me of not acting "all grown up." The car is MINE, not my parents. The car is completely paid for.

I have done nothing here that could be construed in any way as immature, though plenty of people have said that about my parents.

Cinny I'm sure it was difficult for you being alone, but as you notice it's the day after and you are still here by God's grace. I had a sad Thanksgiving myself. My 18 year old daughter is in the hospital with a psychotic breakdown and I don't know when she will be well. But I know God is with us in the good and troubled times. And if it's the same aunt you have written about that you seem to have a good relationship with, I'm sure that it was disappointing that your husband did not invite you to go along. I hope you got a chance to read my devotional today. God really is there with you. He is molding you, shaping you, and building you each and every day. Never forget how much Christ loves you.

I read your devotional every day and I even forward it on to some people at work and everyone seems to enjoy it.

My husband spent Thanksgiving with three families of aunts, uncles, and cousins. He stayed one night with the aunt that I am close to and two nights with another aunt who I have at least stayed with a few times.

Things at least appear to be looking up but nothing has been done yet to stop the divorce process, which really worries me.

I can understand your worry. We all fear things which we have no control over. It's like being in a falling air plane. The only thing we can do is pray and have faith God will have mercy on our situation. But if He doesn't He has better reason and a purpose beyond our understanding. So the best thing we can do is let go of the worry knowing God is in control and that He has already plotted the path. It's difficult to do because we are human, but if we can grasp that the master of the universe is watching over every detail then we can be at ease that He has the best interest of all at heart.

I got a letter today from my attorney. He got a letter from my H's attorney and sent me a copy. It said...

"I would like to move forward with this in an expeditious fashion...Specifically, this is a short-term marriage with a marital residence and debt. I propose that we appraise the marital residence, determine the amount of equity, and divide same through its sale. The marital debts should be divided equally and it should be easy for our clients to divide their personal property. Finally, they should retain their own automobiles and pay for the same.

Please let me know your position on this issue. I can draft a marital settlement agreement, Answer/Waiver, and Final Judgement of Dissolution of Marriage within one week if we can agree on the issues outlined above."

Man, that was quite the blow considering how things had been looking recently.

There is no reason to rush this. So you have no incentive to contribute to your own D.

Of course, you need to make sure that you're protected and such, but you don't have to go out of your way to make it easy. Time works in your favor.

Letters from attorneys are always about negotiations. They are always trying to push a favorable condition for their client and intimidate the other person. Don't take what is said in the letter personally. Your husband was probably asked if he is continuing with the divorce and he said yes, and in turn the lawyer sent out a letter. I'm sure your husbands primary concern is finances, which is what most people are concerned with and so the issues around money are raised.

All you need to do is let your lawyer know that you are not in a rush to settle. Remember this is about negotiation and you have to remove the personal element (although hard to do) from the conversations. Ask your lawyer what your options are and what is the best way to proceed. The mort time you take, the more possibilty there is for restoration.

But also remember the results are in the hands of the Lord and He knows what plan will work best for the future. I'm still praying for you.

I didn't bring up the letter to my H, but instead called his/our friend to vent about. His/our friend in turned talked to H about it, who then discussed it with me. So apparently here is the story behind the letter.

H's lawyer had been trying to get in contact with H, but H never answered the phone. For whatever reason, he was afraid to tell his lawyer to back off from the process (apparently at the beginning he told his lawyer that there was no way he would ever back off from the divorce). Because he never told his lawyer anything different, his lawyer continued to do what he was paid to do. And so he sent out the letter. When my H came home last night, he read the letter and then ripped it up and told me to ignore it. He also told me that he left a message with his lawyer.

So maybe I got worked up over nothing. But if ever this was a place to get worked up, this is a safe place to do it!