Hey, hrt1,

You sound quite strong and I think you will get through this. As I said, 2 month after finding out about his A is really a short time for you to be completely over it. I was hurting a lot for 4 months after my H left me. It is only in the last month or so that I have been able to pull myself from the muddy floor I have been crowling after him in <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

I know you said you have not spoken to your sister, but do you want to? It sounds like you talked since you found out and she has not shown any remorse. Many of the WS here do not show remorse for some time, some take years. So, she may yet take some time...sadly enough.

I tell you, that when ever I spoke to my H and cried at the same time, he would get angry. I think he did not like facing the fact that he was hurting me. At one point he told me "why can we not begin to heal". He wanted to move on but I was not ready... It sounds like your fiance (BF) wants the same thing...just move on...

Did he tell you why he slept with her, even if it was only once? Is so, are you satisfied with the answer. i.e.: do you believe him? Do you trust him not to do anything like this again? He may not want to go to MC, but what about reading some book?

Daisy

I just saw this, I have only been reading the one you connected into. I'll respond to you on that thread. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />