I was married in April of this year after dating my husband for 8 years. Then in July he came to me and said that he wanted a divorce because he doesn't feel in love with me anymore. He says he fell in love with me 8 years ago and he doesn't feel the same way. That he only married me now because I make a great wife and will make a good mother. And now he doesn't feel like that is a good enough reason to be married. He says he still cares about me and wants the best for me and he still likes me. He says that I am good for him and really the best thing that every happened to him but he is not sure if he will be good for me. He thinks he will make me miserable one day. He thinks I deserve more than him. And so he decided to leave and stay some place else. He has been gone for 3 days. I really don't agree with this decision and I don't think this will help everything I have read on this site hits right at home and I think it will be more beneficial to stay together and work on building each other's love banks. He says he just needs time apart and I don't know how to deal with that. It makes me feel inadequate as a wife and I don't understand what he means that he doesn't feel in love. I think he doesn't feel good about himself and work and he couldn't love anything at this time. Does anyone have any advice or words of encouragement for us? I just need another person's opinion.

Hi Franco

Falling in love again is all about meeting emotional needs. Why not join us on the Emotional Needs board? You'll get lots of ideas and support there from newbies and oldtimers, too.

First, though, is there any chance he is having an affair? It will be impossible for you to fill his love bank if its getting filled elsewhere.


Mrs. W8ing