You know the game...share your favorite babble line from WS.

Mine:

She's a cool chick, you'd like her. She was in retail too.
(oh my...yes it's cool to be a drunk, I can only imagine what we could talk about!)

I have my own room there.
(Uh, huh, that's when she goes to work and leaves you stranded at the house without a key to the house)

I'm leaving on a jet plane...don't know IF I"LL BE BACK AGAIN.
(Did you need me to buy you both a one-way ticket or just OW?) (Oh and moving to St. Augustine...warm the place up for me...you know I'm still moving there in 3 yrs like we planned!)

We're getting a dog in a couple of weeks. Gonna name it Hunter. (been hearing this for over a month now)
(Oh really, the name I picked out. I feel so honored, would you like me to pick the puppy out for you both too)

What letter did you give me with my stuff?
(In response to the Plan B letter he got, which he even left me a lovely VM giving me his fine opinion of the letter).

My favorite from him though:
Could you make my car payment? via text message
Yes, no maybe? Via text message 4 hours later

And the greatest line of babble from OW (while we are all playing darts one night back in the good ole days, LOL):
I've never had a pet name before, he calls me sugar tits...(I glanced over and just about spewed my water all over the table...I smiled, guess she hadn't seen our new dart shirts at the time...but the look on her face later on when I tried mine on was priceless...OUR petname is on it!!)

latest bit of babble from the WH:

WH: "(SF) will give you mixed messages"
ME: 'Shall I do this with someone else then?' <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
WH: "No, we are still married!" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Talk about mixed messages!

Stop - That's a hoot! I wish I would have thought of that line way back when WH & I were still having SF!!!!

Here's a bit of babble from my WH:

"OW and I used to talk ALL the time. We hardly have a relationship now."(he said 1 1/2 weeks after being re-exposed)

"What good has you telling OWH done anyone? It has only put a wedge deeper in our relatioship."

"I assume you and OWH are still in contact."

Kimberly
D-Day May 14th
DS age 6
Married 13 years
Re-exposed 2 weeks ago....WH sleeping in other room going on 2 weeks(with exception of one night), not wearing wedding ring

WW: "He's a really cool guy. If you just met him and didn't know about US, I think you'd like him" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

WW: "Don't you think that(WW)having (opposite sex) friends to talk about problems with could HELP our marriage?"

WW: "He's just a friend. No, I can't tell you who he is, because you'd be mad at him" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

WW: (after coming home drunk at 1:30 am on a weeknight, when I asked where she's been) "Oh, I've just been wandering around the grocery store looking at things" Me: "for 3 hours?" WW: "Oh, you know how I like to do that." Me: "but for 3 hours?" WW: "Yeah, seems silly doesn't it?" Me: "I didn't know they served drinks at Dillon's?" WW: "Oh, I had a couple of drinks with the girls before I went." <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

WW: (one night, after a bottle of wine) "Do you think it's possible to be in love with 2 people?"

Too many to remember.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

SD

Mrs. Pure's Fog Compendium <img .../smile.gif" alt="" />

Incredible. If they didn't make her so embarassed and sad, she'd laugh at these now....

When we seperate, I expect you to leave me enough financially so I can have fun. (Yes, dear, I realize that this is all about your fun.)

I never loved you like a wife, more like a sister. (So how many years and how many times a week did you have sex with your sister? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />)

I had the affair because you neglected me during your studies. (I studied from home so that I could be sure to still meet my H's and children's needs.)

The affair happened because we grew apart. (Could it be that we grew apart because you had the affair?)

I and OW turned to each other because we were frustrated in our relationships. (Don't you think it would have been a more constructive solution to turn to me and tell me you were frustrated?)

The affair was not directed against you.

I kept the affair secret, because it had nothing to do with you.

You had no right to interfere in my work by telling my boss about the affair. (Oh really? Let me get this right. Your employee has the right to interfere in our marriage and you have the right to wreck our home and use your work as an alibi, but your wife has no right to inform your boss?)

Your talking to people about my affair is ruining our chance of ever recovering our marriage. (Your continuing your affair is ruining our chances of ever recovering our marriage.)

Your talking about the affair is totally American, it's this cultural difference that is tearing us apart. (Yes honey I agree, I suppose that a wife expecting her husband to be faithful to her is a cultural thing, but I don't see it as just American, but as a part of Christian and western culture in general. If you think it is ok to have more than one woman, you definitely belong to the wrong religion and live in the wrong country.)

You could never keep a secret, that's why I could never trust you. (Another great response to exposure.)

The children shouldn't have to suffer. (So why are you doing this? Why did you expose them to your affair and use them as camoflage? Why did you make them question their loyalty to their mother? Why have you robbed them of several happy years of their childhood?)

WW (now FWW): "Can't you just let me go meet with him and see if what we've got is real, and if it isn't I'll come back home to you."

"Now you and the kids have taken away the only person I've ever loved!!!" (huh???)

Interestingly enough, she doesn't remember saying either of these things now. LOL

Owl-heard something similar-
WW-"Honey I wish I could try him out for a while to see if it would work" as if she's taking a car for a test spin.

WW-- "You really don't know him, he's different"
Me- Oh really, you mean he isn't a 9th grade dropout, who served time for trafficing, and is a raging alcholic.
WW- I meant he has deep thoughts...

WW_-"Is it possible to be in love with 2 men at the same time?"
ME- I don't know I never gave it a thought or tried...

WS(about the need to come home at night): How are we going to work this out. What if I want to spend the night with OW?

WS (going out of town for a few days for business and has always left a no. where to be reached): There is some confusion about where we will be staying. I will call you to let you know. Calls the day after with the number. Just as a 'hunch' I called the number to asked if WS had checked in. Answer: Oh, yes. A few minutes ago.
Do I need to tell you where he had spent the night?

WS: Our encounters (with OW) were like a breath of fresh air from reality.

WS: I have panick attacks just thinking about giving up OW. It must mean that I need to be with her.

WS: (initially as a joke) - I don't take care of my wife. I take care of other people's wives. (The next day he apologized for this comment. It was too much even for him)

WS on how sensitive OW was: She feels really bad about hurting you, and thinks you must really hate her.

WS on why I should not contact OW: She's not responsible for the A. (I wanted to say: Yeah, right, like you held a gun to her head!)

WS about the Affair: I promised the OW that nobody was going to find out!

WS (about the affair): If it happened, it was meant to be!

I am sorry if any former wayward spouses feel they are getting bashed on this thread.

It is a bit cynical, but it does help we BS to detach, and not take this babble personally.

Are most of you familiar with those garbage disposals in the US? Ever wonder where all that chunky stuff disappears to? Or are you just glad it's gone?

Actually, I don't have a garbage disposal here in Europe, but I do have a compost pile. It is amazing how out of all that organic garbage, fertile soil for growth appears through decomposition.

I would like to decompose all this garbage, and promote fertile soil for the growth of marriage...

When I found out about his EA - WH said: " I love you and forgive you. Oh gee thanks. I'll let you know if I ever forgive you. DAH!!! Luckily I did not hand him his head.

Here is another old compendium. This thread gave me a genuine belly-laugh during one of my darkest times.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...rt=all&vc=1

I wasn’t crazy after all! At least not then...

The above have brought a much needed smile to my face.

I'm new to this (3 1/2 weeks since DDay) yet I notice some eerily similar comments.

WH's comments...

'I love you as the mother of my children but I'm not in love with you'

'We've grown apart our lives have taken seperate paths'

'I don't know why I couldn't tell you that I've been unhappy for the past 2 years...I thought you could see I was so unhappy'

'I need to clear my head'

'Our marriage is over' next breath 'I don't want a D'

Well my best friend just added one to the list that WS said to the group.

"She likes to be on top."

Okay that one hurts...egawds.

Here is some of what I'm been told by WW:

I not have any feels for you anymore

I was unhappy and you choose not to see it

Hopefully we can still be friends

I hope that everyone can understand the path I took

You made everyone hate me (after exposure)

OM is a wonderful man

I'm happy and no one will talk to me

I got alot of the same ones everyone did

I Love you but I;m not in love with you

I'm Happy now ,why can't anyone accept that

I love you but not a strong as it used to be

I am going on the road to think, I am so confused

You and OW are so much alike

why can't I have SF with two women

I wish I could have a house big enough for both of you

Why can't you share? Woman just won't share

I love you more than anything in the world ... next day it was I love you but not as much as I used to

I love you and the OW equally

I am afraid to try and work on our M because I am afraid it will go back to the way it was

If I work on our M then I lose OW and you if it does not work
To which my response was... Well so you would rather take a chance on a 3 month relationship than a 24 yr relationship . Your the one who says no guarentees .. so I guess OW is more of a guarentee than me? Of course no response from WH.

OW give me attention and affection and she makes sure I eat.... Oh like in 24 yrs I never made you food ????? Please

I have fun with OW we laugh and talk

Its not about the sex OW and I have sex maybe one time a week...

You need to move on and be happy, I am never coming home

etc. etc..... and they keep on coming

***LOL*** We Former Waywards now realize just how ridiculous we sounded...I don't think that anyone will feel bashed, just very embarrassed and sheepish...I'm still trying to figure out what caused my IQ to drop 50 points, my taste to go from Dior to Dollar Store and my moral compass to, to...Well, I now realize what happened to my moral compass...who can read a compass when their IQ has dropped 50 points???

So, Betrayed Ones, vent as much as you like...you have every right to...bash away...I honestly think that the comedian Bill Engvall had WSes in mind when he came up with his skit about stupid people needing to wear signs identifying themselves as such...So, WSes, HERE ARE YOUR SIGNS!!!! Based on the level of idiocy that I displayed during my A, I would have needed a BILLBOARD...(shaking my head) Back then, I didn't have enough sense to pour p*ss out of a boot with the directions on the heel!!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

Mrs. Wondering

When I asked H if he had SF with OW (prostitute).

His reply "Yes but it was short and fast." <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Another one from WH...

'I just don't have any energy to put into our relationship'

Got plenty of energy to continue the A and continue to tell porky pies about it though!

Mrs. Wondering, you made me laugh! I agree with you that there is no bashing going on here. FWW's know that all of this is pretty accurate.