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I see you posting. I would love to hear what is going on in your life.

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Hi, Believer! I hope things are going good in your life.

Mine....couldn't be better, or more drastically different than six months ago.

I did finally find a great job. The salary, benefits and location couldn't have been more right for me. It's in an industry I had worked in previously and I am loving it!

Speaking of love, I got married. I knew I wanted to eventually remarry, but didn't think it would be this soon. I truly couldn't be happier though.

Steve is a wonderful man. Of course, I wouldn't have married him if I didn't think that, so it goes without saying.

The children are doing good. Dork and I still have a split custody situation but are going through the courts to have that changed. They are happy to have their dad back in their lives.

There has been a lot of change with the introduction of a step dad too. It seems that some days Steve and I spend more time talking about the best ways to make sure they are feeling safe and comfortable than we do anything else, but it seems to pay off. They really like Steve and the feeling is definately returned. Not to say that every day is a walk in the park. But the oldest told me the other day that she likes knowing she has two dads because she knows what is feels like to have none.

The girls have started the school year out at their same school since they are still going between Dork's house and ours. We have moved to Redmond (Steve owns a home there and it much closer to my work), and are in the process of deciding if the children will be staying at Visitation or changing to a school closer to our home. They are such little ladies and are into their clothes and music....and developing the preteen attitudes that I prayed wouldn't ever appear.

The little guy is just amazing. He is 21 months old now and I can't believe how much he can talk! He still brings a smile to your face every time he's in the room...as long as he's had enough sleep. If he hasn't, you'd best watch out!

So, right now my life is full of love, topped with a whole lot of learning and sprinkled with some trial and error.

Thanks for asking <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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WOW, I'm floored. I always knew you would do just fine. Congratulations!

You have been a MB success story, even though it didn't turn out the way you planned.

Say hi to Steve - I know he is a lucky man.

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Speaking of love, I got married. I knew I wanted to eventually remarry, but didn't think it would be this soon. I truly couldn't be happier though.

Well, I'll be damned........Congratulations...that was a shocker for me to read, albet a pleasant shocker. I am so happy for you that you seem to have found a man who can respect you and love you and will commit to you.

I know this is very uncool to say around here (especially with certain heretics).....but I think your WH was a ravign f-ing scumbag, and it brings me literally pangs of joy knowing that he can't "woo you back" with his BS.

Good for you. Made my night.

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I had the right to remain silent.......but I didn't have the ability.
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Thank you, Believer! I had my doubts sometimes that I'd be okay... but my life has turned out better than I could have imagined.

Lem - I'm laughing so hard my cheeks are hurting!! He is a RFS and I am very happy to bring you literal pangs of joy (too funny!!!).

Thank you both!


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Wow, incredible. Many congratulations. TT
What RFS?

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Wow, incredible. Many congratulations. TT
What RFS?

RFS = polite reference to LM's raving f-ing scumbag statement <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />


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I thought it was a reference to your new man. Oops. Do tell us more if you're inclined. How did you meet him? What does he do? Does he have kids? Was it scary at first or was it Bingo. You knew he was the one?

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I thought it was a reference to your new man. Oops. Do tell us more if you're inclined. How did you meet him? What does he do? Does he have kids? Was it scary at first or was it Bingo. You knew he was the one?

Well, I met him on Match.com of all places. A girlfriend and I had a bit too much wine one night and were playing around on the computer. To tell you the truth, I wasn't even sure what I wrote in my bio the next morning!

When I read it, I just laughed. I had written the normal "I enjoy the outdoors and getting to know new people" blah blah blah. I wrote that I enjoyed playing golf but usually ended up as the entertainment because I'm so bad at it. But I had also written, "I have not one, not two, but THREE kids."

I figured, no one's going to answer this! Well, much to my surprise, I had quite a few responses. It did my self-esteem fine, but I didn't really respond to anything because I wasn't really comfortable and felt funny.

Then I got Steve's email. His picture was cute...and he included a picture of his puppy...a beagle. Not fair and I later learned it was part of his internet dating lure. He looked really young but his email wasn't full of all the normal crap.

He just asked me how bad I was at golf.

I answered that one. Turns out that he lives on a golf course but I didn't find that out for a couple of weeks! From that night on we emailed back and forth for awhile. Then he gave me is IM address and we did that for awhile.

After I did an internet background check on him, I gave him my phone number.

He was the only person I ever talked to from Match.com. I knew after our first date (which I was horribly sick on, by the way) that I liked him. I knew after a few dates that I really liked him. It wasn't long before I knew I was falling in love.

He mentioned marriage though and I had a full blown anxiety attack while driving down the freeway.

Obviously, I got over that one. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Steve just turned 30 in August, one day before my 33rd birthday. He doesn't have any children and is divorced.

I swore I would never again date, let alone marry, a younger man. I shouldn't swear.

I have rarely met someone with such a level head and true, honest to goodness sense of right and wrong. He doesn't open up to many people, but he opened his heart, home and self to me...and my children. That one surprised me. I felt fairly confident I could find someone to love and who would love me. But to find someone who would open themselves so completely and lovingly to 3 kids? I wasn't so sure about that.

This is the song we played at our wedding... Steve isn't exactly an overly emotional guy and certainly not a country music fan. But when we happened to hear this song (okay.. I made him listen to it one day), he said it summed up how he felt. I so agree with him!

Bless the Broken Road by Rascal Flatts

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I set out on a narrow way many years ago
Hoping I would find true love along the broken road
But I got lost a time or two
Wiped my brow and kept pushing through
I couldn't see how every sign pointed straight to you

Chorus:
Every long lost dream led me to where you are
Others who broke my heart they were like northern stars
Pointing me on my way into your loving arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you

I think about the years I spent just passing through
I'd like to have the time I lost and give it back to you
But you just smile and take my hand
You've been there you understand
It's all part of a grander plan that is coming true

Chorus:
Every long lost dream led me to where you are
Others who broke my heart they were like northern stars
Pointing me on my way into your loving arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you

Now I’m just rollin’ home into my lover's arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road that led me straight to you

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I just noticed on my last post....

the last line of the song from my wedding:

[color:"red"]"That God blessed the broken road that led me straight to you"
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the next thing I see is the signature line I've had for the last 9 months,

[color:"red"] "Do not ask the Lord to guide your footsteps if you are not willing to move your feet."
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Hm...I find that kinda cool.

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Hi, FIM.

Well, the unproven warrior really did get to sit curbside, having discovered he couldn't rule the world. Meanwhile, the princess was whisked away by the real knight in shining armor.

I'm glad you are doing well.

God bless,
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Fim,

Congratulations to you and Mr. Steve. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Welcome to the MB family. FIM is one of our sisters and we'd like to welcome you to our family. Please take care of her 'cuz she has a lot of bros all across the country. There's one in England who w/b willing to fly out anywhere to help his MB sis. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Then she has a docter in this family who could fix any ailment with his somewhat sharp tongue. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> (just kidding sourman!!!). <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Of course on the other side of the country is another bro in hiding right now and he is known for identifying the 'alien connection'. WAT's that?!?!? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Then she has a few sisters in the southlands who right now are our there near the hurricane..... in CA she has a few more who have helped her through her rough ordeals.

All around the world, this gal has had contacts where she has helped and been helped. We are a pretty tight knit group and if necessary we have used the pointy end of those large knitting needles to poke some sense into the BS' who just wont let go.

We are glad you are there for our little FIM. Thank you for taking care of her and loving her children.

With HN/HN in your back pocket, we know you will have a long M.

All the best. Sending heartfelt wishes from the middle of the big blue. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

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I have a request FIM ...

I'd especially love to see you write out what you learned throughout this ordeal ... and what it took for you to apply what you learned.... sort of FIM's Guide to the Universe....

You did something special ... and I think you have something to give back to this community

.... so cough up ! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

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Just wondering .... you got married knowing Steve less than 6 months?

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OMG Faith.

I don't know if you know me, I am a long time poster/lurker here and I just got engaged to a man with 2 boys that go to that school. What a small world.

Congrats.

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Lora,

So that's where you've been hiding. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Howz about giving us your own update? Howz Resillient? Tell her I said hi. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Aloha,
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See my happy update on the other board.... after divorce. I could not be happier. We both think we have grown and learned as a result of our divorces and I have him reading his needs her needs. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hi Orchid and Believer.


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FiM,

I can only echo Lemonman's words.

Way to go!
Take care of that new man of yours. And make sure he takes care of you.

From East to West, North to South, we all love you and are glad you are happy.


Be excellent to each other and bless God.

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I am so very happy for you. The mother in me would have liked you to date him for two years before you married, but the romantic in me is soooo very happy for you and your children. It looks like he needed a family to make his life complete, and you needed a real man.

Too bad Dork, some other man will be tucking your kids in at night and loving your beautiful woman. You never know what you have until you loose it.

Congratulations Faith. I wish you nothing but happiness always for you and your family. You are a MB success. Take all that you have learned here into your new marriage. He is a LUCKY guy!!

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FIM,

Congratulations....thanks for taking time to update...it sounds as if you have been really busy! You sound happy and you deserve happiness. You are an articulate and intelligent person...you possess all the tools to have a happy life and a happy marriage. Will you spend time introducing Steve to MB principles? If I could, I would send you a His Needs, Her Needs as a wedding gift. Congratulations...

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