Got stupid chain email about so called drug scares (otc drugs) from ow1, the notorious monkeyho, sent to me via my xh..

Anybody who knows me knows I TOTALLY DESPISE THIS ONE! Imho, Family Values, the ow/w of my now xh or has he calls her " HIS CURRENT WIFE"...is an amateur ow when compared to the totally toxic and silicone injected lipped monkeyho.

And get this one...xh forwards the email to BOTH me and to his wifey du jour, Family Values.

Monkey is a drug rep for a large company. I promptly forwarded a reply to all the people on her initial email list and gave them a stern reply from a real health care professional in the front lines day in and day out...and said that "this email has been circulated for last 2 years and the ingredient at question has been removed from many of these products." and added too this tidbit, "while it is indeed a chain letter, nothing more, and have received this at least 3 times over last 2 years, it makes me wonder, is (INSERT NAME OF MONKEY'S PHARMACEUTICAL COMPANY WHERE SHE WORKS)this the opinion of such company clinically? Is by virtue of this email being sent by Ms. Monkeyho from her company email address and company info below direct information as held by this company? I did not know such company sold these otc products. By reading this email, I can only assume that Ms. Monkey is making claims with the expressed go-ahead from her employer."

Once again, the emails are off to her coworkers on the list and to some higher ups, alone with some non related people I don't know...she did something like this a few years back and a coworker who is a friend of mine in their Memphis office, said she almost got fired for it.

What was disturbing in this email, is that she, monkeyho, asks about the WELFARE OF MY CHILD...she sends the email under the guise of "helping with valuable info about some pediatric otc meds" being fully aware that I am a med professional and quite the with-it mom with regards to my child. Darth has assured me that by marrying Family Values (this was his words to me) that he'd never have my son around monkeyho ever again. And even cried to me after getting engaged to family values, this, "I hope you're happy. Beause of your letting the cat outta the bag (my full blown nuclear warhead exposure of he and monkeyho), I can NEVER be with Monkeyho again...so I don't know why you're unhappy I am with Family Values? (foggy rationale)...

Maybe I am sensitive, but even seeing that email sent to me by darth was horrible. It's like even 2 years after the fact he is tossing the affair back into my face. But now, he's also pushing it into the face of his "current wife". I felt sick after reading it...almost turned green at work.

So...Fully aware that my son as per agreement with Darth is NOT to be around monkeyho when I have now proof that Darth and this horrid woman are in contact again, I have to do something. I have to find out if my son is to be around this woman this weekend as my son is off on visitation with Darth as of thursday.

I call Family Values for clarification of the whereabouts of MY son...where he is, who is he around, is he safe, etc.
Wanna know bout the convo w/OW/W 2 days ago? After all, she was also sent this email...from her husband, and from my xh.

I promptly phoned his present wife (as he calls her...imho, implying either there will be more or that she is not really the real wifey or something) and said this, "I am sure Family values, that you recieved the email from Monkeyho. I am phoning you to make sure MY son is not in any way around this woman when my son is alone with my xh." She is silent. She says, "you mean Darth sent ME and email from Monkey> he's TALKING to monkey again after Bahamas incident?" I say I don't know about their life. That it's NOT my business. I just told her that I did not want my son around that woman.

She freaks out again. Asks ME, the betrayed xwife, for info on my xh's life. I tell her I don't know. But to check her own in box.

She says she's given Darth another chance, yada. But that she thinks he's still cheating (*like I don't know this). Then says she is still talking to an attorney and considering divorce...all without taking a breath.

I tell her this:

That I stay out of their life. I only want what is best for son and demand to know if my son is being exposed to anything immoral or illegal as a guardian and parent to my son. That while I respect her as my xh's current wife (my words to her), that I do not personally and will not ever let her off hook completely as she helped my divorce along quite well and spent my money well also. I then tell her this...
"Family Values, if Darth ever truly repented, you'd know. Why? Because he'd have to divorce you as it's an affair marriage and ask for MY forgiveness and ask to repair OUR family and follow God's path for real men...so be careful what you wish for hon. You can have him. I want a real man in my life." She was wordless. I said "have a nice day."

DARN IT!!!OW KEEP POPPING UP IN MY LIFE LIKE A BAD CASE OF HERPES! he he..something that an OW should know well about!lmaorotf

Whoah there, Miss JustPeachy. There is something you can to do her so that you don't get sucked into one of thes snit-b*tch battles with monkeyho (love it! you go, girl!) ever again. Your mail client has a remarkably effective device called a delete button. Use it! Simply don't read her garbage. And for the love of Pete, don't respond to it.

Also, get a spam filter for your mail client and whitelist only those people you want to receive mail from. Blacklist all those you don't want to receive mail from. I have my spam filter set up to reject all mail except that from people on my whitelist. Blacklist monkeyho and do it with a simple discard, don't have it send a rejection message.

You know who else you need to blacklist? exHubby. That's right! Tell him that he is obviously so clueless that he can't understand that you don't want to receive anything originating from his slut. You won't take emails from him and if he needs to talk to you, call you on the phone and only at specific times (7-8 pm). If he calls at a time when you don't want to talk (caller ID is a must), simply let the answering machine pick up. Then you get back to him in YOUR time.

My ex has been doing this thing of sending me emails or calling me on my cell, but only during the day. I know why she is doing this -- her OM wouldn't approve of her calling me. So when she emails me with a question, I answer the question, though it may take me a few days to respond. If she calls me on muy cell, I usually don't answer. Sometimes I answer without looking at who's calling. She she says "hey, what are you up to?" I rather irritatedly say, "why I'm working, what do you think I'd be up to at this time of day? I don't have time to talk right now. Call me at 7:30 this evening." If she says that she just has a quick question, I tell her that I'll answer it when she calls me at home later. I don't do this to be hard to get along with, but to send her a clear message: I am the betrayed spouse and I, not you, am in control of any and all comunitcation between us. It lets her know that I'm not the simpering puppy, who waits excitedly for a pat on the head from her. Also, I am not the guy you have to sneak around to talk to. CUR, don't play that. I am not like your boyfriend. Don't like it? Too bad -- my life, my rules.

Justpeachy,

Why would he have to divorce her in order to remarry you? Where oh where do you get that belief?

1 Corinthians 7:15

"Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace."

http://www.leservices.org/divorce.htm

Look at John 4:18. Jesus did not tell the woman at the well to go find her first husband. No! Jesus told her to worship God. Some Christians even tell a divorced and remarried person to divorce their present spouse and go remarry their first spouse. They say the first spouse is the proper one and if they marry anyone else they are living in adultery. Such bondage! No. Jesus calls us to peace and tells us to worship God.

"Divorce is not sin. It is a reaction to sin. Jesus said divorce occurs because of the hardness of someone’s heart. Hardness of heart creates intolerable situations that can only be solved by divorce. Hardness of heart is the real problem, not divorce. And hardness of heart can be found in both non-Christian unbelievers and Christian “unbelievers”—unbelievers in the grace, mercy, and life-changing power of a loving God!"

And your ex-h could not Biblically come back to you based on
these passages, so again where do you get this false belief?

"Deuteronomy 24:1-4 tells of a situation where a man married a woman and then divorced her. This woman then married another man. The Scriptures go on to state that if the second marriage ends by her husband writing “...her a certificate of divorce ...OR if the latter husband dies…” (Deuteronomy 24:3,4), she could not remarry the first man she divorced because she had already married someone else. Therefore, if our spouse dies, or if we were divorced, we can get married again. Divorce and death are equal before God. The only stipulation in this Scripture is that if this is the second marriage, we cannot go back to the first spouse and remarry them because we married someone else after we divorced them."


http://www.divorcehope.com/canchristiansremarryafterdivorce.htm

Just curious but why does he need to repent and repair the marriage to YOU (wife #2 I believe?) and not his "original" wife?

This is such a toxic situation. I hope you can successfully avoid interaction with all of them. It does you no good.

justpeachy, I absolutely love the image I get from your descriptive words. A monkeyho with big silicon injected lips to look sensuous & a big pair of... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />...saline filled balls stuck on the chest for good measure. If we complete the look with spike heels, tight spandex mini skirt, maybe a strapless top, I just crack up. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I picture this monkeyho running around in circles flapping her long, hairy, skinny arms that drag on the ground because she can't believe H would cheat on HER. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

TR,

THANK YOU, thank you, thank you.

I've been sooooo worried. You have pointed me in the right direction.

I disagree thorned...I don't believe affair marriages are at all considered a real marriage via our Creator...not gonna go into any theological debate here...I just think that affair marriages are bunk....and a few stinky things too...but are legalized in the world of men.

I don't want him back....but if he were to truly repent, as per MY old church (again I WILL NOT discuss my faith or my beliefs as they're kinda personal)sunday school teachers, he'd have to repent...and that means ending his affair/marriage. But I honestly think I said that to just shake up ol' maxxim mag honey, Family V.

And yes,Monkey does have silicone lips...and silicone other things too...and dyed platinum blonde hair (I on the other hand are a natural blonde...with a teeny bit of help..he he).

But his present wifey is a former sort of model, tall, leggy, skinny, also silicone enhanced but with long straggly (from having had hair extensions)black hair...and fake teeth. Bleech.

Anyway, who I had missed is the man I married. Not this idiot guy. But the man I mourned..if he ever existed at all...

You are truly lovely.

Thank you for that!

In this line of thinking, and I am not getting into whether it is right nor wrong, is there not a wife before you that he would have to go back to? If my memory serves me correctly, did you not start dating or begin a relationship with Darth when he was still legally married?

That's fine, but still two wrongs don't make a right.

But I have to wonder, why do you even care what these women look like? Who cares if they have silicone whatever?

It's like you think your some how better than them, sure they have made some mistakes. But then So have you, So have I, we're ALL SINNERS and sin has the same penalty no matters whose it is.

God's grace extends to everyone, even them, all they have to do is ask for it, but it's still extended, even if they CHOOSE not to accept it.

You come across as if you believe you are better than them, yet you can't even forgive them. The Bible doesn't say to forgive only if they ask you to forgive them. And yes, I am tossing this out here, because you keep spouting about how the Bible says "if he repents he has to come back to you" when it says no such thing. The Bible says he has to seek your forgiveness but it certainly doesn't say he has to come back to you, but quite the opposite.

The Bible also says in Matthew 6:15 "If you forgive NOT men their trespasses against you, NEITHER will Your Father FORGIVE YOUR TRESPASSES."

It has been suggested by many people over the years on this board that you block certain addresses from your e-mail, but you refuse to do that, so if you continue to get unwanted e-mails, that's YOUR FAULT!

it has also been suggested you let your ex-husband know NOT to send you any forwards but only to have e-mail contact concerning your son, that apparently hasn't happened yet either, so why do you continue to let him over step YOUR boundaries? Again, that is YOUR fault that hasn't stopped, you have yet to place consequences on his doing so.

So the way I see it, much to your own dismay, this is your own fault, because of your choices. If you would block the e-mail addresses as suggested, and if you let him know if he continues to send you forwards that you will block his e-mail address, and then DO THAT you would not have these things "thrown in your face" as you claim. You wouldn't be getting them at all, and YOU could finally begin to move past that time in your life and begin to find some semblance of peace. But until YOU take those steps you will stay right where you are, which appears to be right where you wish to be in the muck and mire of his garbage pit.

Peach, do you see the cycle?

[color:"purple"]The times, they are repeating.[/color]

Justpeachy,

What would you consider the marriage of King David and Bathsheba? Was that a real marriage in the eye's of God? King David even had her husband killed in order to marry her. And, that is after all the line in which Jesus Himself was born.

So I'm just trying to understand where you get this belief.

Ms content,

Why the stuff? I was NEVER an ow...my x was separated and told me he was already divorced...she had been gone for a long while and was residing in the west and I never heard anything from her for several years...after I had married him...and they discussed a car.

And to Ms. TR..

I do not choose this forum to discuss my personal religious beliefs, which are MINE, and I do not use this forum to discuss my political beliefs either...which are if you knew me in this town, very outspoken...

So please do not ask me about my religious beliefs as you will NOT get an answer. I think I clearly stated that in my response to you.

Peach, I really like reading your posts, and I get quite the shock from Darth (can't quite believe what a total villian he is...)

But you do get on your high horse about things.

I think you get real pleasure from feeling superior to FV, and MH. You like to point out how superficial they look vs. how natural all-american you are....how low-class and slutty they are vs. your morals. And maybe those differences are reality. But I sure get the sense that you want some kind of validation from Darth that you are the "real" wife.

....technically your marriage to Darth was also an affair marriage (even if you didn't know it) How do you justify saying that he has to repent and repair his marriage to you -- over wife #1?

Peachy, I respect your position re: your religious and political beliefs (and I suspect we disagree on both) because any mention here becomes a long debate, which no one ever "wins". I also respect how gutsy you are to just vent your feelings, even when they're not "politically correct", because you also express great compassion at other times when you're not angry at XH.

Meanwhile, your XH seems to get worse all the time and it's got to be terribly hurtful for many reasons: he's your DS's dad, you loved the person you thought he was who seems to have disappeared, or never existed, and you keep getting his various OW's thrown in your face.

I also feel the temptation to trash my STBX's MOW. It feels like a slap in the face that he chose someone so, well, you fill in the words... What's hard to accept is whatever she is, and the fact he chose her over me, is no reflection on who I am or even on how I look. But, this is a very tough one for me. When I read what you say about your XH's OW's, I have to laugh because I feel the same way.

ok..I am not doing too hot...son has had 2 asthma reactions and off again to doc today...

but to answer question, it was NOT an affair marriage...when I met him, his stbxw had left him six months prior and was living in another state hundreds of miles away. No contact, nothing...and as I found out, later on...like many years later, that he had cheated on her with somebody in middle mississippi. when I found out he had been married, his divorce was already final, and I was engaged...it was almost 2.5 years later...so my heart was clean and I knew it was not about me. But I did not in contrast, know about him or his life. He was married apparently from all accounts from friends and family (and him )that he married her rather young, after knowing her a short while, and they had only stayed married a short while..no kids...no together assets..nothing. So mine was not like you think...only time I ever heard from his xw was after I'd been married I think 2 years...and she called to get his name off a car title. other than that, she's supposedly moved on...again, she left him. and I knew NOTHING of any of it...no calls, no letters, nothing. I believed he was 100 percent a single guy. And so did my family, friends, etc.

and again, I am just having a really bad week...from son's asthma stuff that is getting me down, to a bad bad pms thing, to the work stress...

but...got offer for department director for the peds hospital here! I do love kids...and did 2 pediatric externships in college...this could be something good <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> no call...weekends...or holidays..plus it could put me fact to face with some good pediatric specialists should I need them for my little one.

oh, and in the descriptions I use...well, they're on the money..sorry, but it's true.

let's end this topic...i THINK IT'S MUCH MORE THE JOB STRESS THING...

SO LET'S POST UNDER THAT!