Dear WH,

I am writing this with a heavy heart. I want you to know that despite everything, I still love you. I had hoped that we would be able to talk and work toward a solution. I am saddened by what has become of us, our friendship and our marriage.

The twenty years that we have been married were the happiest of my life. I feel that our family has always been filled with lots of love and I will miss that.

I understand that I have not been the perfect wife. I have been too dependent and possibly just too comfortable and have not tried to make our relationship grow. I am sorry for my part in all of this.

The pain that your relationship with this other person caused and your continued lack of trying and being my husband has the potential to destroy my love for you. I do not want that to happen. I feel like you are enjoying the benefits of a single life and a married life and that is unfair to me and our family. I want you to know that I feel saddened by all that has happened. I thought our love for each other was strong enough to last a lifetime. I still feel that we can survive this, but not the way things are going now.

Because of all of this I am going to have to ask for no more contact from you. I do not want us to email, call or see each other. I will do my best to stay out of your way when I bring the boys to hockey. If you want to see the kids, which I hope you will, you may call DD18 or DS15 cell and set something up. Please do not forget DS8. He will miss you the most, well him and DS15.

When you decide that you want our marriage to work and put our family back together please let me know. For this to happen there would have to be:
No contact with the other person or any other woman ever again
Complete and total honesty from you…to include full disclosure of your work email
No more going out in bars pretending you are not married and most importantly
Total commitment to me and our marriage.

I want you to know that I love you and I believe in us. All you have to do is come home and open the lines of communication so that we can works towards and stronger, better marriage.

Lost

please?

Good letter, but I would skip the fourth paragraph. It is too long and has some LB's. Also change the last paragraph. He has to do a lot more than "communicate".

Hopefully some experts will be along.

Hi Lost,
I'm not an expert so take this with grain of salt...but I think a plan B letter is suppose to relay love and a hope for the future...something he will read and re-read many times. Aliens have short attention spans and once they think they are being dumped on they stop reading. I'll think about it more and try and give more constructive feedback tomorrow.

Hang in there.
C42

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