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I spoke to Dr. Harley during his and his wife's radio show. He recommended that I divorce my wife. He felt that might be the only way to wake her up. He didn't feel plan b would work. Joyce called it an exaggerated plan b. I was shocked by his answer. He told me to stay nice and loving during the divorce and maybe she would come back to me.
Well that's two family psychologists that have said that I probably need to divorce my wife. I guess I should take the hint and get off the pot.
I really didn't expect Dr. Harley to recommend divorce, I'm really blown away.
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GT, and believe you me, he doesn't recommend it lightly. But you know he is right, don't you? You have been saying it yourself for months, you are just shocked to have it reaffirmed.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Wow -- has he ever recommended this to anyone else? And what, exactly, would be his criteria for this?
Try not to feel bad, Grove. He'd probably recommend it to me, too.
*Why* exactly did he tell you that he thought this was your only solution?
Mulan
Me, BW
WH cheated in corporate workplace for many years. He moved out and filed in summer 2008.
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The Harleys are not pro-marriage at all cost.
The Harleys attempt to coach marriages that can be saved.
Not all marriages can or should be saved, and they often acknowledge those which can't or shouldn't.
~ Pain is a given, misery is optional ~
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Dr. Harley thinks I should separate from my H. He believes that nearly all marriages can be turned into great marriages if both husband and wife work on changing their behavior. If one isn't willing to do so, the other is left to endure an uncaring spouse.
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Not surprising Cherished, but I know its not what you want to hear.
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I read a quote from a book: "If you don't deal with reality, reality will still deal with you." Sobering thought.
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I'm putting that one on the fridge. Thanks Cherished!
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