Simple question I hope. WH and OW did a lot of text messaging and phone calls (TM is how he got busted). He is out of the house and I am not calling him about every little detail- I am tired of the verbal crap.

So I figured I would TM him and he can call me if he can speak to me respectfully. But, I feel like every time his phone alerts him to a TM, he has that anticipation of a OW message, but no, it's just the ole battle ax asking about a kid thing. (That is my assumption of how he would feel)

My goal is currently meeting any EN's he will let me meet, which at this point is just being a good mom and treating him respectfully. He and OW will crash and burn sooner or later.

Is it OK for me to TM him even though seeing it is from me will probably be a dissapointment to him. Or is that the little dose of reality that reminds him that he is stuck with me regardless due to the kids.

We never TMed. I did change phone services after Dday so we could, but we didn't get that far before he moved out.

I am probably over analyzing...

Yes, it's OK.

and

Yes, you are over-analyzing

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thanks pepperband

Over analyzing keeps me plenty busy. I wish he could know how much energy I spend trying to figure out how he thinks.

I just didn't want him to associate me with the dissapointment that it is not OW TMing.