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...Think about it--if he hasn't asked you, he's lacking in the gonad department... Hey wait a sec, Aeri. That's not fair. It IS football season. So a lot of our testosterone is diverted, ya know? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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"I REALLY HATE IT!! LOL What do I say if he says no??" Why would you hate it anymore than anyone else? Rejection is rejection and it's just something you have to roll with. So what if he rejects you? Is the Earth going to stop spinning and you're going to go flying off into space or something? Big deal. He rejects you, chaulk it up to his lack of good taste <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Learn to value yourself and rejection ceases to be a major issue for you.
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So Aeri, just because I don't decide that every available woman I meet is someone I need to ask our means that I don't have any balls? Give me break. Actually it means I'm sporting some cojones and know exactly what I do and don't want.
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I thought in this enlightened era, that gender doesn't matter. If you find someone attractive, and you are single but don't do anything about it, you lack the intestinal fortitude to be an adult, regardless of gender.
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So Aeri, just because I don't decide that every available woman I meet is someone I need to ask our means that I don't have any balls? Absolutely not. If you were interested in a woman and you didn't ask her, I'd say you were lacking in balls...In this case, he hasn't asked her. To me, this means he's either lacking in balls or just not interested...so, what's the point of her asking? She's on the losing end any way you slice it.
Married 6 years on July 23, 2011--no issues and deeply in love--thanks, MB!
I'm convinced that I'm married to the most wonderful man alive....
I hear and I forget. I see and I believe. I do and I understand. Confucius (B.C. 551-479)
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I say....don't think about it...just do it. What do you have to lose??
Life is too short. If he says no then that's the end of that....if he says yes the who knows what could happen!!
Go for it!!!
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Me 35
STBX 39
Dear son 9
Married...15 years (Jan. 20, 1990)
D-Day July 20, 2004.
Divorcing!
What goes around comes around
Sometimes we have to hold our head high, blink back the tears and say GOOD-BYE
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Oh, there have been women in whom I was intersted that I didn't ask out. Some I knew were just out of a break up/divorce, some I'd heard complain about how sick they were of men always hitting on them, some I knew to be psycho, etc. I understood that my interest was really sexual and Check don't play that -- quit doing it a long time ago. There have been others where it could have been great, but the circumstances made such an action innapropriate. And there have been time when I didn't do so because I knew I was not the kind of guy she goes for. Quick look .... Yup, still seem to have cajones.
You see, there may be any number of reasons why a man doesn't ask a woman out, even if he's interested, so questioning his manhood isn't terribly useful.
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GreenEyes,
Take a deep breat and just do it! Sometimes we have to take risks.
If it works out great! If not, you'll never have to sit and wonder what ifs.
Best of luck to you!
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Should I wait to see if he makes a move? Should I make the move myself? Hey, it's not like you are asking him to marry you or something... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. Why not just say "Hey, Bubba, wanna go to that cool new restaurant down the street"? It doesn't have to sound like a huge serious romantic date... AGG
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And then there's the juvenile but fun to think of it response of a rejection:
'So I guess sex is out of the question?'
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Might be easier to have a fun activity with the kids first and then invite on a second 'date' without the kids.
Or work those allurin' green eyes and half smiles...
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Okay I'm going to try to gather up my ovaries...(thank God the doctor left them)...and ask this guy out sometime this week.
Thanks everyone for the advice...I'll let you know if I do it!
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