Alright, WH and I have been having some good dates last couple of weeks. I mean really having fun. We're talking more on the phone, seeing each other more, even doing some R talk.

Today, I check Yahoo personals. Viola...while he still doesn't have his as searchable, he has changed his. Makes me so mad that he is still maintaining it. It means he's contacting women. So much for "feeling guilty". <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Should I say something to him about this? What do you guys think I should do?

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I would talk to him about this. But if he is seeing OW then I would not believe him . Maybe it is time for plan B. How long have you been in plan A?

he moved out first time on d-day 6/10/05. I tried Plan A then but did a terrible job for about a month. He moved back in for 3 weeks and moved out 2nd time, wow...been 6 1/2 weeks ago.

That's when I really started Plan A seriously.

What do you mean if he seeing OW do not believe him?

So, we talked tonight. Rather than confront him, I asked him if he was still maintaining his Yahoo personal profile (actually, I asked "are you still pimping yourself out on Yahoo?). He said he still has it yes. I asked if he is planning on keeping the subscription, he says he can't remember if he cancelled it or not. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

We talked more. I asked if he's given any thought to reconciling. He says he's thinking about a lot of things. Well, I LB'd all over. I remind him of what I will need to feel safe: NC with OW, passwords to all email accts, no more of this online personals stuff, total transparency, MC.

He says the passwords is asking too much. I tell him there are no secrets in a marriage. He says he has nothing to hide. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> He says he doesn't trust me (or anyone for that matter) so he doesn't feel comfortable giving out that info. I tell him I dont' trust him either, that's why I would have to have it.

I finally just tell him that we aren't ready. When you are ready, you let me know what you'll do to help me feel safe again and I'll be all ears.

I know he has an IC appt tomorrow. Hopefully he'll talk about some of this. But is he testing me or what? I'm not giving on any of this because I know I need all of it to be able to "move on" (sorry Pep) and heal.