Hi everybody, I need a little help/advice from you wonderful people - and I hope there's somebody listening right now....

Background Info: Marriage of 13 years, 2 boys. I've been here before about 4 years ago. Back then W had had an A and I'd taken my revenge <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> which was stupid. We recovered and have been practicing protecting our relationship and taking care of each other.

What Happened: I was at a party on my own (shouldn't have been I know) and was chatting to another woman. I'd never seen or met this person before in my life but it wasn't just a chat or a flirty thing. From the moment we said hi, we hit it off. Bingo. It was like we connected on a level that I just can't describe - it was definitely the same wave length and then something more.

Anyway, at some point in the evening this beautiful, charming person I'm utterly enyoing being with leans over and kisses me. It wasn't just a kiss either but one of those which hits the soles of your feet. Very sensitive. And very special.

This event has thrown me into confusion. I'm holding my own but struggling. Have I seen this person again? - No. Would I like to - Very much. I've SMS'd her and I'm fighting the temptations inside me. It's very difficult.

Why am I behaving like this? I know that having an A is one of the most damaging and destructive things you can do to your life.It's also incredibly selfish. So what's wrong with me - why am I doing this and feeling like this?

I've been wanting to tell the W and lay this out in the open as I should. I know. But guess what, I'm not. I'm protecting the lie. What do I do?

Thanks for any help...

Hi, Blown.

What makes you think, in reality, that this woman is in any way, better than your wife, or has something different to offer?

What you FEEL is brain chemistry. It will pass if you simply ignore it.

It really is as simple as that.

Tell your wife you kissed another woman.

Gimble

Stop it. You don't need to ask us, you know what to do.

tell your wife and stop all contact with the woman before this blows right up in your face. I would have a lot more respect for my wh right now if he had done that instead of having it turn into the mess we have now..... you know what to do, so do it. you and your wife need to do that EN questionairre too sounds like. This attention from this woman must be giving you something you're not getting at home... tell her! mlhb

you and your wife need to do that EN questionairre

this is what I'll do....thanks mlhb