Well, I'm home from deployment and my wife is going to give reconciliation a shot. We're scheduled for a marriage counseling session, and awaiting our Marriage Builders workbooks. However, she says she no longer has any love for me and is giving reconciliation a shot because she feels that she has no choice.

She's been asking for a divorce for months while I was gone but I told her I wouldn't give her one until we give reconciliation and counseling a shot. However, I may have messed up last night when I told her that I wasn't planning to give her a consensual divorce either way. I told her if what she says is true, and she hasn't had an affair, then there are no grounds for divorce. I let that slip out when I was pouring my heart out to her. When she repeated it back to me, I realized I might have just lost her cooperation. She became more irritated and then went on her way. Now I worry she'll not only become uncooperative, but she may create grounds for divorce.

Did I mess up?